Who is more likely to become mothers of large families, and the number of young children in the family is only growing. And that's fine. The question is how to keep the peace between brothers and sisters, all living in harmony, peace and fraternal. Leopold inherit and implement our recommendations.
Error number 1.COMPARISON OF CHILDREN
"Look how good eats Masha. Not what you "or" You see, Sasha is a good girl, doing everything quickly. " In fact, children can not be compared either Mezhuyev themselves or with other children.
It is generally illegal hold. Such actions we increased competition and rivalry between brothers / sisters. Compare the child can be with myself only, "Dima, the last time you once dressed quickly."
Error number 2.NO PERSONAL SPACE
Own territory is very important for the formation of a mature personality. And with the birth of: cot, playpen, baby walker. The child must understand that this is only his place, here he can play and engage.
Mistake number 3.high expectations
From older children usually want more participation, understanding situations. Oldest child automatically becomes an adult (especially against younger children). Parents think that nn must understand that my mother was tired and waiting for help from him.
In fact, a preschooler - this is the same child. And approaches should be appropriate. Therefore, rely on the understanding of it is not necessary on older children. Their consciousness up to seven years, by definition, self-centered. It physiology. They're at that age still can not put yourself in the place of another. So do not expect too much as long as the senior.
Error number 4.TO SELECT SOMEONE ONE
All children are different. Both physically and intellectually. Someone more calm, someone on the contrary - "continuous punishment." Opposite there are children in the same family. Often such a difference occurs, for example, due to the unavailability of mothers to the appearance of an older child, when he was given with difficulty.
It is important to understand that a lot depends on the parent, not the child. Feelings of parents - is a complex mechanism such as a multi-layer cake. If an older child because of the emotional unavailability of warmth and love is not opened fully, do not despair and say, "What a difficult child." And just stands to rectify the situation.
Error number 5.Likes and favorites
Parents can not explicitly advertise their sympathy, but some children still feel who the favorite in the family. And this leads to discord between them, competition and envy. To paraphrase a famous phrase: "Children do not choose." They are such already are. They can not choose to order: to here were the eyes and mouth are. Only one way out - to accept and love who they are.
If you see that the character of one of the children is unacceptable to you or difficult time for him, and you need to approach a young age. Try to find an approach to it, spend more time with him, to help him. Visible therein is good, its features and inclinations. Search than you along interesting to do, so that the total was cheerful and helpful.
IMPORTANT:Children can not love equally. Because each of them is special. Therefore, and love to each of them should be special, but - equally strong. Good luck to you and your baby!
