Separation of a child with mom or dad - stress for both the baby and for parents, especially if you have to leave for a long time. We offer some tips to help you cope with stress related to parting with the child.
The main thing to remember: you can not accept the separation as a catastrophe, because in any case the long-awaited meeting time will come necessarily. Moreover, psychologists say that sometimes parting mom or dad with a child at a particular time is useful: it helps him to become more independent. And that separation days passed quickly and not really sad, adjust yourself and favorite child in a positive way.
Advice on how to prepare your child in advance for parting
1. Do not disappear suddenly or imperceptibly for the kid (if possible)
Some parents believe that if unnoticed "evaporate", there will be tears and tantrums, and the baby normally react to that beloved mom or dad is not. Psychologists say that to do so is by no means impossible. So, any emotion, including the unpleasant and negative, you need to understand and live, or the baby may develop neuroses or other diseases.
It's wise to prepare your child for the fact that you have to go: tell him where and why you are going, why you are doing and be sure to come back. And when you return, it will bring an interesting gift or souvenir, because every minute of the trip you will only think about it. All of this will help your child to feel that he is safe and, most importantly, that mom or dad did not quit and leave on time in their adult cases.
2. Play a game of separation
Shortly before the trip offer child play on a trip or a business trip. For example, let the bear will be its director and send the kid on a business trip, which really do not want to go. But it is necessary to work, and you can bring mom and dad fabulous souvenirs. Or let the pope, who is going on a long trip to be "plane was" uvozyaschih son or daughter on a long journey.
3. Gift
Before leaving present to the child a sweet little thing that will remind him of you.
4. We are counting the days to return
Hang in the children's colorful wall calendar and mark the day of your return. Let the kid alone or with adults, and considers cross out the days before the meeting with the parent.
Tips on how to help the child at the time of separation
1. Before leaving, show the will and do not show your child that you are experiencing. And even more, you can not cry. Then the baby will be easier to realize that nothing terrible happens.
2. Promise the child that will bring him out of the trip interesting surprise or go with him to the movie theater, amusement park or a circus, when you get back. And do not forget to keep your promise.
3. Regularly communicate with the child on the phone or video: it will create a sense of presence, and both of you will be able to easily move the forced separation.
4.Share your photos with the baby or postcards in the messages.
5. If you leave for a long time, you can send baby gifts, even without cause: he will always know what you think about it.
6. If you lie in a hospital, let your child visits: it will allow him to understand that you are there, just temporarily away from home. And the positive emotions associated with the meeting, will help you recover more quickly and return home.
7.Ask adults, remaining together with the kid, to simulate contact with you: for example, let the child draw a card to my mother who went, and the mouse will give the message.
You will also be useful to know, how to understand what the child does not have enough of your love.
