My niece Lisa decided to move into a new apartment given to her father in another city. She had long wanted to live separately from her parents, she graduated from the institute, she liked her profession, so there were no problems with employment. The only negative that Lisa was very embarrassed about was living in an unfamiliar city for her, where there were no friends and relatives. Then she found out that her former classmate Irina had also been planning to fly out of her parental nest for a long time, without hesitation Lisa suggested that she live with her.
The new apartment was large, three spacious rooms, a long corridor, a large kitchen, a separate bathroom, two balconies. Well, just mansions. So Lisa didn’t even worry, there was more than enough space for two. Irina didn’t have much money, so Lisa offered her to live with her for the first month for free, and also bought her a new sofa. The rest of the apartment was more or less furnished, renovated, albeit old.
Moved, it's time to get a job. Lisa immediately got a job in a good place, and then decided to help her friend. The niece found a good place for her, with an official high income, but Irina flatly refused to work in a catering network. She said she would find something suitable for herself.
Irina went to interviews by taxi, spending a lot of money on travel. And in the end, she quickly ran out of them. Lisa had to help, she lent her friend. After 3 weeks of searching, Irina got a job as an administrator in a small beauty salon. The work is not dusty, the schedule is 2 through 2, but you can always change or take a day off, the salary is small, but you can take money every day, and Irina was happy with everything.
Lisa was very happy for Irina, but she thought that her friend would look for something else to earn extra money in her free time. But no, every day, when Lisa returns home, Irina sits at a computer or TV, her dirty dishes are in the kitchen, a constant mess. Not only does she work only 3-4 days a week, she still does nothing at home.
What she occupied, Irina gave away. For an apartment he gives a little money, and the rest he tries not to spend much. Everyone saves up for expensive clothes, and even saves on food because of this. But Lisa always asks to treat herself to something delicious. After Lisa's claims, the girl cleaned a couple of times, but without enthusiasm. She does not buy anything for the house, she has been living with my niece for half a year, and she has not even furnished her room with anything. And there is only a small cabinet and a sofa that Lizka bought for her.
Lisa did not think that their close proximity to a former classmate would drag on for so long. Liza does not want to ask Irina to move out. Besides, well, where will that poor fellow live, she has no money to rent housing. She can barely pull a single one, but she definitely won’t go to a hostel. She will either have to wander around strange corners, or return back to her parents, but then she will hate Lizka for sure.
And now Lisa met a guy. Everyone there is serious, they wanted to live together. He offers her to move in with him, only he lives with his mother, but why should Liza go to him or live in a rented apartment if she has her own? But no, there is a classmate, and there is nowhere to put her. And Irina feels Lisa's dissatisfaction, but asks her not to interfere in her life, calls her a manipulator, an abuser, gets offended and angry. He says: “When you were bored, you invited me to live with you, and now you are dissatisfied with everything, probably you were going to kick me out, traitor!” Liza does not know what to do, asks for advice. What do you say?
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