How often do you think that you need to leave your husband / boyfriend / roommate? How many times a day do you crush resentment, anger and disappointment in yourself? Or maybe you constantly swear, shout and sort things out?
You feel unhappy, but at the same time, you cannot find the strength to leave.
Congratulations, this situation is just a sign of addiction.
Let's start with the fact that dependencies are different.
Often, it may seem to a person that he physically cannot live without his beloved, attributing this feeling to "unearthly love." But, love is when you feel good alone, but with this person it is better. You accept it with all its shortcomings and do not try to change it. And when you are humiliated in every possible way, and you are angry and do not accept a person, this is dependence and there is no love here. You build relationships according to a sick scheme and it is different for everyone.
To break this vicious circle, you need to understand: where does your desire to enter into a knowingly bad relationship come from or what are you do to make them so, and most importantly: how to make it so that you no longer like being in such union?
It's a long job. But 50% of success is the realization that you are addicted, not in love.
Every person in this relationship says one thing - I don't like it, but I can't leave. And this is the main sign of dependence and unwillingness to take responsibility for your life. After all, if you don’t like it, you need to change the situation. And if you do not change it, then everything suits you. And here it is a vicious circle.
This does not mean that lovers, where there is no dependence, have an endless idyll and Zen. But, in harmonious pairs, they know how to negotiate and go to a meeting. There is no fight. There is a union of two conscious and loving people who want to build a joint future and go in the same direction together. And this motivates them to cope with difficulties side by side.
Dependent relationships are not a sentence. You can very well change the situation by taking control of your life and begin to change what is happening. A loving partner will listen to you, maybe not immediately, but it will happen. You, too, will most likely need to change.
The main rule is that you must do it together.
But if your partner doesn’t care, he won’t even try to change something. Then answer your question:
Is your life worth spending next to someone who doesn't care about you?
