More and more people are in no hurry to marry at a young age. Someone is looking for "their" person, someone is building a career, someone lives for himself. And already by a more mature age, he begins to want a family. Let's see what late marriage is, and what are its pros and cons.
Late marriage age
It is generally accepted that late marriage is when people form an alliance after 30 years. But, if we take into account modern times, when the average age for marriage is 25-34 years, then we can say that late is after 34 years. Although here also the country is worth considering. Here, for example, in England, the average age of marriage is 32 years old, which means late - it is after this age. But this is not about our country, besides, men are generally advised not to marry before the age of 30, first you need to firmly stand on your feet and weed out all your “youthful habits”.
And many psychologists say that if a person has never been married before the age of 40, then he obviously has some kind of psychological problems.
What are the advantages of late marriage?
- Implementation in the professional field. Many have already been able to build a good career, get back on their feet financially and achieve success.
- Experience at home. People in adulthood already have an understanding of where food comes from in the refrigerator and how to cook it properly. There is an awareness that utility bills will not pay themselves, there is an understanding of how to make repairs, how to repair, how, elementarily, to keep the house clean.
- Relationship strength. According to sociologists, people who got married after 30 years have a much stronger relationship than those who got married before. Couples who get married before 20 and a little later are more likely to think about divorce. Experts say that it's just that in adulthood a person understands his needs much better, and therefore the choice of a spouse is made consciously.
- Ability to resolve conflicts. In adulthood, people understand that they may not always be right, and already know how to find a compromise in a conflict situation. While young couples sometimes commit rash acts and say a lot of unpleasant words during the conflict. In adulthood, men understand that women can have mood swings, but women will not shocked that a man would want to periodically watch football on TV, relax with friends or go to fishing.
- Adequate approach to planning children. At a young age, lovers, often without any financial cushion, have one, two, or even three children, because “this is love”, “I want small”, “need a child”, etc. People in adulthood are engaged in planning not only the conception and birth of a child, but also think over his upbringing and security.
What are the disadvantages of late marriage?
- Career to the detriment of the family. A person in adulthood is immersed in his work, building a career, and professional development will be a priority for him. As a result, much less time will be devoted to family and home.
- Unwillingness to compromise. Yes, we noted that in adulthood, people, on the contrary, can adequately resolve conflicts that arise in a couple, and this is a plus. But still, it is worth considering age, life experience, which will not allow you to agree with many things. Or you may even have a desire not to compromise in a given situation. It’s just that with age, a person develops his own principles and habits, from which he may not want to deviate.
- Little romance. With age, I want all this vanilla-pink atmosphere much less, as it happens in my youth. So you can’t even expect some small amenities from the second half.
What do you say about this? Are you for late marriage or against it? And at what age did you decide to go to the registry office?
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