My girlfriend is divorced. Nothing strange, it happens to everyone. But she almost fell into depression, recovered for a long time, went to a psychologist. There is a bad story. They said that her husband somehow suddenly lost interest in her, then he filed for divorce himself, now 3 years have passed, and he has long been living with another woman. And my friend is not in a hurry to build relationships, she says that she is more comfortable alone. But at the same time, she gives advice to those women who are now married so that they can save their marriage.
Here is the point of view of a woman after a divorce, she tells what was wrong with her, and what is better to do differently.
- You need to look for the best in a man. No need to focus on his shortcomings, misdeeds, mistakes, what you do not like, what annoys you.
- Make love to your husband. Regularly, and, if necessary, constantly. I remember how one woman at my husband's wedding raised a glass to say a toast and said the following phrase. “Lovemaking is like a balm for relationships between a man and a woman. It smoothes all sharp corners and heals wounds. If you feel that you have moved away from your husband, then just undress and get close to him!
- Ask women who have been married for a long time and have a great relationship with their husband for advice. No need to show your pride! Don't be afraid to take advice. Women are all different, but men, by and large, are almost all the same, especially in the way they need to be approached.
- Do not violate its boundaries. Let the man periodically “go away” into himself. Do not find fault that he ignores you, this is not so, it is just that periodic “blackouts” are so important to him.
- Don't try to change a man. You must accept him as he is, love him with all his shortcomings. He must want to correct or change, it depends only on him.
- Compliment the man. Yes, compliments aren't just for women. It is important for a man to know that his other half considers him courageous, smart, strong, beautiful, sexy, etc.
- Do not take the fact that a man chose you as something for granted. Lower your bar a little. He chose you because you are beautiful, smart, feminine, yes, you are. But turn off your arrogance.
- Laugh at your husband's jokes, even if they don't seem funny to you at all. It is very important for a man to understand that he is able to make his woman laugh. So play along, but without fanaticism.
- Follow your emotions. Keep yourself in control, watch your reaction to a particular event.
- When a man returns home, turn off the "bitch". He just needs to relax, and not listen and solve another batch of problems.
- You need to love a man the way he wants it. But not in the way you think he needs. In fact, despite the complexity of the phrase, everything is done much easier than it seems.
- Take care of yourself. The more feminine the wife looks, the more it reminds the husband that he is a man. Watch your appearance and inner fullness.
- Give your husband more attention and time. Find "windows" in a busy schedule, do not devote yourself entirely to work or children. Don't forget about your man.
- Never compare your husband with other men, thereby humiliating him.
- Trust a man. Do not torment him with your jealousy, nit-picking, surveillance, checking your phone.
A happy marriage almost always depends on women's behavior. I find that the advice of my divorced friend is very useful and always relevant. Do you have anything to add?
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