How to teach a child to stand up for themselves: 5 rules

Keeping a child under your wing all the time is an option for yourself. If parents solve all problems, protect them from troubles, get involved in conflict situations, then the baby risks growing up without learning to stand for your rights. And this is not the best skill for adulthood, you must agree. How can you help your child and adapt him to a variety of situations?

Rule # 1: admit mistakes 

For example, the situation in kindergarten. The child accidentally knocked over the plate, all the food fell to the floor, and the dishes broke. The first reaction of the kid is to cry, run away, say that it was not he who played the trick, but the neighbor on the table.

Teach your child to admit his mistakes, not to hide the truth, but to be able to take responsibility. You shouldn't be afraid either. The main thing is to look for the positive in everything. The broken plate didn't hurt anyone, did it? Very well! And there, look, a neighbor to share his dinner with the baby - after all, it’s so much fun! Be sure to tell your child that everyday situations (broke, broke, ruined) are, of course, not very good. But not a tragedy either!

Rule # 2: ignore humiliation

It seems that each of us had to deal with offensive nicknames and teasers in the garden or at school. But what can I say, adults also practice this kind of humiliation. How to react? It's very simple! Complete disregard with a smile on your face. Yes Yes! The more you resist and prove otherwise, the more you provoke the offender. This simple philosophy will help a child in adulthood as well, when the injections are more sophisticated than those of children.

Rule # 3: Don't Show Fear

If a child comes across adult children on the road who will cling to and start a fight, teach the next one. First, you can't do that. Nobody has the right to insult, let alone threaten with fists. Second, teach you to hide your fear. Even if you tremble in your knees, you need to be able to control yourself, not show your face, respond calmly and confidently. Thirdly, it is worth sending the child to self-defense lessons so that he can be taught basic techniques. It's easier to be confident if you can stand up for yourself not only verbally, but also physically.

Rule # 4: say no

Kindness and generosity are great qualities of a child. But often skilful manipulative peers use this to their advantage. For example, your child may be "taken into circulation" by older children and taken away from him candy, or forced to carry a briefcase. There are many situations, and here it is necessary to teach clearly and confidently to say "no" when you do not want to be used. The fine line between generosity and manipulation must be clearly explained to the parent using elementary everyday situations.

Rule # 5: exercise

Charge your child with the love of sports! After all, there is no more effective way than sportthat will teach self-confidence. When you invest your strength, cultivate endurance, work with the body, then you are immediately proud of yourself. Motivation is born - to reach great heights, to take part in competitions. The taste of victories, physical training is a strength that will help a child in adulthood.

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