We all come from childhood and most people live according to the scenarios laid down at that time.
This happens because at that time we did not yet have a value judgment, we knew how to love unconditionally and accept the world as it is, without the norms of behavior and life experience imposed by society, which forms fears, caution in us and makes us close in our sink.
But, you can't get away from yourself, and below I will write about three children's scenarios that, in adulthood, interfere with living fully and make a person unhappy.
1. Overprotective parents.
Adults who in childhood were "strangled" by the attention of relatives are often closed, do not know how to defend their boundaries, painfully dependent on the opinions of others and choose tyrants for their partners who remind them parents. But, if their parents loved them unconditionally and wished them well, then a stranger may behave in a completely unpredictable manner. But, since grown up overprotected children are accustomed to being pushed around, they often end up in a dependent relationship, where they become a victim.
2. Indifference in the family.
Since we started talking about overprotection, we will also discuss the other side, when parents do not care about their children.
Such children grow up selfish, with a lack of empathy, and not the ability to build trusting relationships with others. For them, there is no concept of cohesion, support, trust and help to loved ones. And not because they are bad people, but because they were not taught this, they do not know how to behave in such situations, since they themselves have always been left to fend for themselves with their problems, and believe that everyone should cope with their misfortune yourself.
3. Conflicts with and without.
Children who grew up in an atmosphere of abuse and endless discontent grow up to look like ordinary people, but when there comes a time to solve problems, they, following a childish scenario, rush at the offender with insults and screaming. They do not know how to solve problems peacefully. For them, attack, conflict and abuse are a normal solution to all problems, since this is the only way to solve these problems in their family.
As for relationships, such adults choose as partners someone with whom they can swear and "doggie" from morning to night. With other people, they are bored and not understandable.
All these scenarios vary from case to case, but, in general, the situation is such that children who grow up in the described conditions are looking for a similar atmosphere, because childhood is the time when we knew how to be happy, we felt good, calm and we unconsciously want to return there, no matter how bad it is did not have.
It happens that adults manage to subdue their childhood traumas and improve their lives, but in most cases they are still drawn to the origins.
Be careful in raising children, their future fate depends on your behavior.
