Now the majority of parents are sure that there is only one way to prevent childish tantrums - by ignoring. I agree, childish hysteria is unpleasant. Sometimes you feel that you will explode a little more, silently drink your valerian in the kitchen, take deep breaths, switch to something pleasant. Dear parents, in order to properly respond to a child's tantrum, you need to learn to distinguish between them.
There are 2 types of tantrums
Type 1 - Top Floor Tantrum
This is when the child just decided to throw a tantrum in order to manipulate the parents and make them do what he wants. Once the child gets what he demanded, he can just instantly end his tantrum. At such times, the child uses the upper brain. He can control his emotions, behavior and make sound decisions. An example of such a hysteria is simple. For example, a child screams heart-rendingly near the store, lamenting that he wants "this candy". It seems that he is really worried, but, in fact, this is the usual manipulation of his mother.
What to do here? Under no circumstances should you enter into "negotiations with a terrorist." You should be patient and find an adequate answer for your child. If this is the same situation with the candy, then you can answer like this: “Of course, I understand that you want that candy, but I don’t like your behavior. If you don’t stop being so lucky, you won’t get a candy and you won’t go to a children's party. You don't know how to behave. " If the behavior has not stopped, then the punishment must be carried out. And, if you do not succumb to this type of hysterics, you will become much less likely to meet them.
The second type of tantrums is the downstairs tantrum
This is something else! It's downstairs hysteria. Everything is completely different here. The child is so upset that he cannot turn on the upper brain. For example, a child does not like to wash his hair, and he is so angry with you when you pour water on his head that he starts screaming, throwing toys out of the bath, screaming. He can even swing his fists and hit you! At these moments, the little man simply cannot turn on his upper brain! Stress hormones overwhelm him and his brain stops functioning altogether. No control over emotions and body.
And here a completely different reaction is needed than in the first variant. In the first case, parents need to quickly establish a rigid framework, and in the second, show affection and behave soothingly. Here you can give free rein to experiments, choose different approaches, but the fact remains - you have to console the baby. But that doesn't mean you won't talk about the situation. First, yes, the child needs to be reassured, and then talk about what is acceptable and what is not in the behavior.
Children, according to psychologists, have an age crisis almost every year. But before, our mothers had not heard of any crises, and our tantrums were solved simply - a belt and a corner. I think, of course, that this is too much, it would be better then to turn on the ignore. Screaming also doesn't solve much, especially when a child has a hysterical downstairs. In this state, he can harm others, and even himself. And in the first case, you will not achieve anything by screaming, you must definitely stop everything and show your baby that this is not possible with you.
Tell us in the comments how you deal with your child's tantrums. And be sure to indicate the age of the baby!
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