Any person at least once in his life repulsed others with his behavior. There is nothing to be ashamed of, because each of us can be wrong. But today I want to talk about the types of behavior that many are always present. And now they unconditionally alienate others. You, too, can, without realizing it, repulse others with such behavior. Let's talk about this. We will also figure out how to overcome this behavior in order to improve relationships with others.
Behavior that turns you off
Selfishness
Now there are a lot of egoists, and people are sure that it is egoism that helps them stay afloat in our society. This is probably all due to a misunderstanding of the advice of psychologists. After all, now there is a lot of information about the fact that first of all you need to love yourself, learn to say “no” to others, and so on. But people, as always, do not understand everything quite correctly. Of course, being a soft-bodied altruist who forgets about himself for the good of others is somehow not very good for a person himself, but being a real egoist is also wrong. You need to feel the edge, and learn to live and develop together with people, learning and taking and giving. When a person gives something and does not expect anything in return, he gets even more over time! So everything is in your hands.
Self-obsession
You might think that this is also a manifestation of selfishness, but this is more vanity. When a person praises himself in every conversation, it is very unpleasant. Of course, it is not at all bad when a person talks about himself, but only if it is short and reliable, but when such stories begin to tire, and a halo is already glowing on the narrator's head, this is bust. You are not the center of the universe, try to be more respectful to others. When talking about yourself, be short and be sure to listen to what the other person is telling you. It is important to understand the needs of those around you, and not to dwell on yourself.
Complacency
Many people think of themselves as rather inflated. And this is very repulsive, especially if the person himself does not represent anything. People sometimes start looking down on others without even noticing it. Sometimes they are so absorbed in their ego that they themselves humiliate others by their behavior. And you can't get respect that way. Understand that each person has their own living standards, we are all equal, each has unique qualities and values. Therefore, you need to respect others as much as you respect yourself!
Perfectionism
There are no ideal people, and you, no matter how it may seem untrue to you, are also imperfect! People tend to make mistakes and learn from their own mistakes. It is unrealistic to strive for the ideal. But if you strive to do something better, this will be the path to your self-realization.
The habit of complaining
To be brief, no one likes people who are always aching. Such individuals radiate negativity and repel others. Try instead of complaining about fate, to change something in your life and solve the problems that have arisen.
Cynicism
Cynicism is a real shamelessness, a contemptuous attitude towards the established norms of morality and ethics. And it certainly repels others. Don't be cynical. Start thinking positively and you can bring something new into your life.
Respect people and they will treat you with respect!
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