Often, the decision to change schools accept no children, and parents. And it is not so important, that pushes them to such a solution - their emotions and mood or cruel realities of a change of residence. In any case, the child will change against the school, so - he will protest.
Since your child is forced to obey the decision, which took you, as a parent, it is important to be prepared for the fact that the house will be very difficult and probably will be "war" that will have to go to end. We offer you a few quick tips on how to be in this situation:
A child may be angry at you, and it is a natural reaction to the fact that he finds himself helpless before circumstances or your decisions. Opportunity to annoy it will be very help the child does not feel like a victim. Just take this anger, it is natural and justified. So we can say: "It's hard when everything is decided for you";
Teenagers can not be afraid to join the team, not to be taken there. Firstly, because in this case they will join an already established team, and it can be difficult to find your place, take some kind of position, but it is very important for teenagers. And secondly, some teenagers to build relationships at all uneasy because of the internal conflict between the desperate desire to be accepted, "Their", to become part of a community and the opposite desire - to be an individual, anyone not like, separate, independent.
A child may be bored, to grieve, to mourn, and also have their reasons for doing so. He leaves that were dear to him. It is important to allow your child to grieve, to be bored, to remember the past a place of study. If you get an optimistic start to extol the benefits of the new school, he will soon feel lonely and misunderstood and hardly at the same time charged with joy and optimism. Adequate and effective than it would be to live the last loss, the faster turns to the future. Therefore, advertising of a new place of study for a better hold the right moment;
A child may be anxious, worried, afraid of not cope with the new conditions. Support him in this, affirming that it takes time to adapt. Especially if you are unsure or anxious child - this may need more time. You can strengthen it with the words: "of course, it takes time to get used to," "maybe you need a little more time than some other children." You can call his classmates for some event, birthday, to help get closer. First obtaining permission of the child, of course.
Adults around often, unfortunately, want to criticize, correct and criticize a teenager. However, during this period it is particularly important to know their strengths, abilities and strengths. This will help him.
