If you notice that they have lost touch with your child. You frighten his new friends and alarming actions. You should not go for her child - any aggressive attempt to strike up a conversation or to impose their views will fail.
But where do you start a conversation with a teenager that he was productive? How to do this is to achieve the goal? In the first place parents have to tune in to a positive, patient and go on talk with your child Only with a positive attitude.
Start a conversation with a teenager you need in a relaxed atmosphere. Better if it will be in a comfortable atmosphere for him. For example, in a cafe or in the countryside.
In that case, if your relationship with your child completely lost, wait for relief of your conflict. Start the conversation after you feel the location of the part of your child. This can occur when you have made a gift to your child, for example, gave the phone, or thing of which he dreamed.
If you are going to start talking about the problem, so be quiet. Make sure you do not fall through and you start to lecture.
In no case do not use allegations. Do not say the words, "You're wrong," "You got into bad company", "This will end badly," "I love you He warned "- such phrases put a fat point in your conversation, and the teenager will be closed even deeper into his world.
Tell the story from his teenage years. Let this be a negative story, how did you get under someone's influence. And be sure to mention what came of it. Ask your child how he would have done in your place. In general, though, he will experience your state at that time. Because of this, the child will understand that you have been the same as it, in turn, will position you to a frank conversation.
In conversation do not impose their views, wait until you are asked. Teens do not suffer morals, and the use of pressure doing the opposite, not as they are asked.
Remember that even though your grown son or daughter and seems to "hedgehog" in your eyes, he still a child, and he is in need and parental affection, and support and attention, and care. You need together to survive this difficult period - often hug and kiss her "difficult" teenager. Believe me, very soon, this stage will be left behind.
Be sure to ask of that cosmic connection that binds mother and child life.
