Denmark - an amazing country, the main virtue of which is considered modest. It is believed that in a small Danish live the happiest people on earth. It is not necessary for someone to prove something, trying his best to stand out, the main thing that you were comfortable and cozy. What are the rules of education, we can borrow from the Danish moms?
In any country of the world parents want their children to be happy. We already wrote about the education methods Dutch, German, French and Japanese mom. Avoid errors in education is not possible, because we are all real people and not ideal. But to raise a happy man does not need to be perfect - you just need to love him, to be fair to him, to be able to recognize their right and not take responsibility. So say Danish parents, and maybe we have something to learn from them.
Do not expose the child from negative emotions
Modern parents are trying to give children everything they should only ask, but even more so, to cry. Especially if it occurs in a public place. For example, at a restaurant, instead of enjoying a meal, adults circling around a small tyrant, he had only capricious. Danes believe that such behavior is not to the benefit of the child. After all, he will be very disappointed when other people will grow will not deal with him as his parents, fulfilling all his desires, is only to express their desire or dissatisfaction.
Do not be afraid that in the eyes of others you will be bad parents. Give your child the opportunity to freely express emotions, including the negative, let him understand that be unhappy, scream and get angry - that's fine, but to achieve the desired thus not out.
Do not confuse the consequences and punishment
The child must understand that the consequences of some of his actions may be unpleasant and even painful. But I do not after the baby in spite of your warnings, climbed on the table, fell and filled his lump, to punish him, to shout or say, "Well, I knew it." It does not help him to learn the lesson, and will only cause feelings of guilt.
Do not test on the child a variety of educational system
Now there are many books on the various systems of education, parents are written from personal experience. Not the fact that this system is based on the experience of others, will suit your family. Listen to your heart, you know better than anyone, that is necessary for your baby, and do not rush from one extreme to another.
bored helpful
Modern parents do not give children the opportunity to be alone with his thoughts. The journey to the clinic or in a restaurant, they take with them the books or gadgets to take the baby, fearing that he was bored. So, Danish parents claim: bored helpful. This helps the child to create, to imagine, to know themselves and the world.
Children need parental guidance
Many of today's parents want to become friends with your child, consider what is most important - to give him the right to choose, even illogically. And then, when the child is a teenager, "fighting off the hand" and starts doing antisocial things remember about the antiquated authoritarian approach to education, which, alas, also do not give fruit.
Do not buy respect, friendship and love child with the help of permissiveness. The child is not aware of the consequences of his actions, and he needs a clear framework of behavior. When a child knows exactly what can and can not, he lives in a natural world and feel safe - confident Danes.
Maintain a dialogue with the child
The child may argue with you and to express their point of view different from yours. Needless to say he phrases like, "You no one asks," or "Because I decided to." It does not help him to become independent-minded person. Arguments their opinions and ask your child to argue and possibly convince you.
Happy children can raise only happy parents
Do not sacrifice your interests. The family should not revolve around the child - the child must be part of the family. Optionally, the whole family to go to a zoo, amusement park or watching a cartoon, if you do not want. It is possible to go to the museum, city tour or a family comedy. Showing the child that the world is spinning around you mislead him and render him a disservice in the future. Happiness to you and your children!
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