What are the signs of improper upbringing of children? Why such an education does harm to the child? And what will happen with the baby, if it continues to pursue its wrong to bring up?
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You inspire faith in a child that he is safe only near you
How is it manifested? You control every step of the child, not to let him on the street unattended, track it by GPS, read the correspondence with friends. Fear for the child can understand, every day we hear about the abduction of children, pedophilia, etc. You You do not fence off the child from the outside world, and to teach him to avoid danger and to be able to respond to it.
What will happen to the child in the future? It will be very difficult to do without assistance. He will not have the basic skills for life, for example, he will not know how to navigate in space, see danger, avoid it and not even be able to plan your free time, because this is always engaged parents.
You overpraise child
How is it manifested? Praise is necessary, but not for each action. For example, a child 5 years old, he goes to the toilet, and every time you praise him for it - so not very normal. The child must know that he is loved, but do not praise for each action.
What will happen to the child in the future? It will be assumed that all of his actions and work - it's good. And the fact of the presence of it at work to be appreciated. Also, high self-esteem will be his "companion".
You choose the sports section for the child
How is it manifested? parents themselves selected section and hobby for your child. Is an option that the child has chosen the section itself, but then changed his mind to engage in or wanted to try something new, but parents insist that he must complete a class, otherwise not achieve heights in this case and will not make his hobby profession.
What will happen to the child in the future? Different exercise influence in different ways on the body. If a child is to give one the sports section, the development of the body will occur unevenly. Great sport increases the risk of injury and takes the child's childhood. And what if he does not want to do a hobby or your profession may not be very talented in this matter?
You cut into a child's play
How is it manifested? This manifests itself in two embodiments. You cut in the process of playing the game to be good. Or just a child breaks the rules, for example, it takes someone else's toy, you will immediately return it with an apology without giving learn to self-resolution of the conflict.
What will happen to the child in the future? The child learns to communicate and resolve conflicts. It will be difficult to converge with people at work and even start a conversation with strangers.
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You control the homework
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How is it manifested? There may be several models of behavior. First, you are constantly in control of homework, thoroughly check the blog and corrects errors in the assignments. You "puffing" on the books with your child. The second model of behavior: you choose a specialization for the child and start to cook it long before the final exams.
What will happen to the child in the future? The child will be non-independent. He did not learn to manage your time, seek help when it is needed, to make their own homework. Decide for yourself which one of you is learning - the child or you? Who needs to learn to live alone?
Make crafts for the child to kindergarten and school
What will happen to the child in the future? Crafts are not necessary for the demonstration of talent, and for development of fine motor skills, uniting the parents and the child, the development of imagination and design skills. You teach a child to two things: he makes bad - and this affects the self-esteem baby, the second - he gets used to the fact that for him do all the work.
You continue to treat the child as a child, even when he grows up
What will happen to the child in the future? Parents will continue to solve problems for the child, it is from this will be unhappy, and the parents it will be tiring. And if the child wants independence, the parents will be very difficult "to let him out of the nest."
Based on the book by Julie Litkott-Haymes "Let them go."
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