Agree, every parent wants to see their child an excellent student, first in the competition, a gold medalist, "krasnodiplomschikom", and after that - a grand career high positions. In other words, all we want out of our little children of nurture more leaders! But is it really so necessary? Or maybe our desire to actually become a hindrance to the child? Let's investigate.
I have one friend. How as a child he was, I can not say, because he is much older than me. But, as befits the leader of a small, all he sought. I read the entire home library, and then took the town (the town was small). He graduated with a gold medal school and enrolled in college. And he graduated with honors. I went to work. Everywhere and always tried to be the first. Then came the dashing 90-s and its formation as a businessman (not without the help of certain people). Like all good and life is getting better.
But! He did not know how to be "leads". Yes, he was in the company of a soul-man, but the work is not even able to properly pose the problem, explain the subordinate action plan. I put on one segment of the work of several people and eventually no one is responsible for the result. When swearing (at work), I did not hesitate to get personal, and with business partners acted like it was fashionable in the 90s. As a result, the firm though still afloat, but staff turnover - wild, potential partners less. Working with him is nobody wants. And he sees this as "I'm a clever, and around some idiots!"
Such a person can not be called a leader. Yes, the makings of a leader he is, but to develop as a complete harmonious personality, he did not (and would not). As a result, instead of having to sit in retirement and enjoy a quiet old age provided, teeter on light, does several things at the same time (because it can not trust anyone) and "building" of those who are weaker him. Greeted like that? Then let's look at how it should bring the child to the sort happened.
The leader - a man to whom people trust and are trusted, follow him to embody his dreams and desires. Leader, demanding the other, the Executive, the executive has to be himself. And again, in a true leader must necessarily be charisma. Something that causes people to voluntarily go after him. History knows many examples of charismatic leaders - Alexander the Great, Napoleon Bonaparte, Hetman Bohdan Khmelnytsky, Adolf Hitler. These people are attracted to her, were challenged his idea.
When the child is small, it controls the parents and they feel that they have growing leader. In fact, the true leader he should be able to all demands from others. None truly successful person does not become them directly. To climb to the top, he had to go through all the steps of one of them. Thus, he not only acquires useful skills in the profession, but also learns to talk. For it to achieve the desired people need to be able to speak properly! Sometimes the situation requires that the interlocutor charm, often have to cajole, and sometimes - to threaten. In any case, a true leader is obliged to find the right tone and words to get things done. It is a kind of magic. It is clear that the better a person "language is suspended," the easier, but on the other hand, in the world of big money will not tolerate empty "idle talk." Therefore, the first rule: Teach your child to clearly set goals, properly articulate them and responsible for them.
If there was a conflict in the team at the child, do not rush to blame all around and to protect their own. Try to calmly deal with the problem. And, if necessary, indicate the wrong deeds of your child. Thus, the baby learn to tame their emotions briefly and clearly formulate the idea and not act in any situation from the perspective of the right, realizing that he, too, can make mistakes.
Bringing up a child, be sure to pay attention to what he really wants to do. Give him the opportunity to choose your favorite activity and encourage his interest. But just explain that each person is unique in their own way and, accordingly, the possibility everyone has their own. Someone knows how to build a house out of matches, and someone does not like exercise at all. Your little leader must understand that the right people in the future he will not choose at random, and "interest."
Since childhood, develop the child perseverance, discipline, ability to follow through. Teach him not only think outside the box and make decisions, but also be responsible for them. For example, my daughter wants to help make a salad? Perfectly! Let them take a board, cut vegetables, but then also it will wash itself, put into place and rub with a damp cloth workspace.
Always accentuate the child's attention on its achievements and not errors. They need to be carefully disassembled, to draw a conclusion and move on. The child must be generated a positive attitude towards their actions. The kid must be sure that all of his work, he can, will overcome!
Do not try to control all the time baby! Respect his personal space. So he developed the chain: act / offense - the consequences / responsibilities. Always try to give him a choice, but explain in advance the consequences. For example, a child asks for a dog. Do not tell him firmly, "no." Explain that the animal needs special care, regular paddock and ask if the child is ready to promise that all of these will deal with it is he?
Develop empathy for the child's neighbor, empathy and the ability to help, because a true leader will always help the weak, and comfort when needed.
Be sure to try to fall in love with the child in the book! The more a person reads, the better it develops its brain works imagination, increase vocabulary and improve eloquence. Initially themselves colorful books to read the baby, then find an interesting book for independent reading. For instance, my daughter loves fairy tales about dragons. I tried to find a book about them, encyclopedia. At first, she reluctantly read, then became involved and now itself on certain websites write fairy stories (fanfiction). And it there even praise. In order to more interesting to write these stories, my daughter began to read more than itself.
Future leader knows how to handle money. Therefore, play with the child in any "material" of the game: the manager, the monopoly of the empire. Explain the importance and value of money. Provide an opportunity to collect a small amount for their needs. Get a piggy bank, where the baby will be put off to a coin machine / bike / candy. The child must understand the complexity of making money. Explain what a bank card, what are the advantages of deposits that is accumulating interest.
Remarque: Dear Parents! If all of a sudden you notice that your child is not active in the sandbox or not leads the frisky crowd of kids on an adventure - do not worry and do not try to change the crumbs! A true leader is a child is quite capable in splendid isolation calmly sort through blocks, but when older, may attract the people and to organize the most profitable business. And - yes: the world has never turned away from the great thinkers for whom the greatest joy was to lock themselves in the room and create! I wish you success!
