Constantly aching terribly annoying child and the parents and the people around them. Is not it? To cope with this problem, it is important first of all to deal with the real causes of this phenomenon. We can help!
Child whines and whines and it is unbearable. He seemed insect that curls over the ear and constantly itchy. Parents often come to the reception to a psychologist to complaint"He was always whining, whining, it is impossible to drive away, mamkane is endless... What to do, how to stop it?! "Meanwhile, pop a few reasons why a child of radiant darling turns into whining remora, and all these causes are worthy of attention
In the period between 2-3 years, the case of "negativism crisis", or separation. Kid for the first time faced with the fact that he is not all-powerful god, the world does not obey him anymore requirements (as it was before, he felt), my mother suddenly became a separate entity, and may at any time to leave. Children with a strong temperament survive this difficult time violently and noisily: tantrums, felting on the floor, yelling "bad mother, do not love you!", Sometimes even attack with fists and kicks.
The reason for whining - age
But if a child is lowered tone, a family completely prohibited any aggressive emotions, if for the slightest sign of anger you can either punish or isolate, we have to express their anger and displeasure less explicitly, for example, by whining. As it were, nothing to complain about ( "I'm not on anyone attacking"), and the steam slowly descends. In adulthood, it will look like a constant grumbling, angry faces. Although in reality it is all the same message to the world: I am very unhappy with you, be kind, be corrected. If you know your baby in this specification, you can try to stir it in the direction of a more accurate expression of their feelings.
How to help your child? Teach him to shout in a loud voice, "I am very angry!", Show how to growl and stomp, give a secure bit to be able to thresh sofa and fight with my dad. Excellent bits obtained if cut in half "spaghetti" for learning to swim, which is made of material similar to foam. Hurt someone they can not be, and the output of emotions provide a "bang."
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The reason for whining and tantrums - jealousy
Often it is at the age of 3-4 years account for the birth of the next child. And over who and so hard, instead of a more or less easy to solve the problem of separation from the mother, forced to adapt immediately to the two misfortunes: not only did I immediately small shrimp, with the opinion that no one is considered to be so also rival dragged around and shake a leg him. It is unbearable! Most child wants to get rid of his rival: hence the attempts to gently cover the baby's pillow, offers to carry the baby to where taken.
If parents react competently, ie listen, sympathize with the grief a little jealous, reassure him that he was still the same beloved and best in the world a child of hatred gradually taper not. But if parents frighten manifestation of jealousy, if for any expression of anger child is denied the love and acceptance, it will harass you whining and sabotage. It's your fault that he suffers? You destroyed it cozy and safe little world, bringing into it the evil in the form of constantly screaming creatures? It turns then a constant headache.
How to help your child?
1. Never, never have to reproach him for what he feels. When you talk to him, "Are not you ashamed to be angry, as little brother!" He hears: "You are bad, we do not love you anymore, we have a child you better" and "your feelings are unacceptable and indecent."
2. Try to keep at least a small personal attention. And it is very important that it was the attention to the positive reinforcement, pleasant activities and fun, not "let's swill the floor together, because you have more." No, sharing time should be really enjoyable: a bath, reading, playing, cuddling at bedtime.
The reason for whining - you have to, you - an adult!
Sometimes it happens the opposite situation, when a whiner becomes older and younger child. However, the senior all his childhood, since the appearance of younger, train, train, temper, forced to engage in all kinds of martial arts.
How to help your child? Let us remember: the war is long over! This nasty whining mosquitoes - only yours, a very small, very dependent, very weak child. Still easier to spend a few minutes figuring out the reasons for his poor health (both physical and mental), to satisfy his need for attention, give him what he needs, than pull up every 3 minutes "Stop whining!".
He was really tired, really hungry, really sad. You do not need to hide from the invaders, you can hurry and dedicate that time to their children. The days are, the years pass, but the "pull yourself together, rag!" Halloo to one another later in adult life. Yes, you do it yourself you know, is not it? If that is the case (you bear to see a child of something can not), ask yourself the voice in your head says: "A man should be a (strong / bold / clever / endurance)." Please note that all claims about masculinity turned against the very young child, until he is simply unable to match the image of a super-soldier.
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