Communicating with your teen is probably one of the most complex and significant segments of the path called "Raising a Child." This part of the road, which often winds among impenetrable jungle "adolescence", and sometimes turns into a mountain trail on the very edge of the precipice youthful extremism which can suddenly go into the endless desert of loneliness and imaginary misunderstanding.
It is so meticulous, extensive and versatile theme that she will be devoted to not a single article. We are with you, step by step, pass this way. Somewhere stepping carefully, somewhere passing on running and pausing again, thinking at the same time, how and where to take a step. Let's start with the basic principles of building communication with Pope teenager. They will become a skeleton, which will keep all our subsequent advice, reasoning and action.
First of all, once and for basics: your child came into the world to live their and only their lives! Your job is to teach him the basics of life in society, help to substitute a strong man's shoulder in difficult moments, to give choice, make a start providing gently to insure in the process of moving to the most abrupt of life turns.
Never try to realize your child is not able to reach you in your life. Do not attempt to by a son or daughter realize their unfulfilled dreams whether it is the choice of future profession, family life, place of residence, etc.
The child chooses his own way, he makes and corrects errors. It is in its unique and unrepeatable way. Do not make the choice for him, even with the best intentions, even from the very large and clean paternal love.
Once and for all remove from your vocabulary: "This is for you... for your own good ..." "When you grow up you will understand, assess, and even thank you will ...". Most likely, will not estimate and will not understand. And if they accept it, where is the guarantee that life will not return to the starting point of all to your child took it a possibly chosen them even before birth, the way? I learned and learned exactly the lessons he received a unique experience for the sake of which come to this world, in your family.
Your child - not you. This is a separate, different person. He must not love what you love. He has the right to choose what is valuable and it is important for him.
Your child is free. Nothing do not expect it. He did not have you, even teeth on edge "glass of water". All that you will give to your children, everything that invest in them - warmth, care, love - they give their children. Parent "duty" failure to pay.
Build communication with a teenager on a solid foundation of the main rule: "It is his life and his choice! "And in this case, your relationship Dad / teen will never be a wall of indifference and misunderstanding.
