For moms dads children's party - is an occasion to rejoice over their child and half an hour to go back to their own childhood. And if we know that he feels during the matinee hero of the occasion itself, who will dance, tell verses and look for eyes... a smile on the faces of relatives in the "auditorium".
That the child feels during a matinee?
All children are different - in temperament, type of intelligence, education in the family, so the kids Eve matinee feel a cocktail of feelings - joy, excitement, to fear, anxiety, stress. What scared kid? He experiences that can not cope with the problem, forget the dance moves or knock, telling verse. That is - does not live up the expectations of adults. And the higher the requirements for the child, the more it tightens and experiencing.
Do not forget also about the stuffy, crowded room adult strangers, loud sounds of music and the bustle of educators, nurses, etc. muzrabotnika
Where aggression and fear?
What will be on the matinee, let all the little things and have been rehearsed many times, for the child - the unknown. And all afraid of the unknown. And when a person experiences fear, the part of the brain that is responsible for security, "slow" or "off" part of the brain that stores poems, songs and movement.
In adults, by the way, the same thing happens, and stress we suddenly forget the words, rules, formulas, etc., are beginning to fuss, to behave hard and aggressively. So, surviving, child - even the most talented - can forget the words, confuse motion and not hit the notes.
What proshodit with the child?
When a baby is strained, it becomes too sensitive, - a protective reaction of the organism. And 5 minutes ago quiet child suddenly begins to act up, crying, refusing to speak, he does not give to his touch, demanding mother.
How quickly help an anxious child before, during and after the matinee:
• In no case do not boo and persuade to act, and to withdraw from the hall;
• carefully wash his baby face with cool water;
• Wash your child cool water pens;
• sit on the baby's eye level, say kind words, praise, soothe;
• gentle hug and a soft voice to talk with crumbs - to tell you what he needs to do.
If the child does not agree to go to speak or to return to the room, let sit on your hands and look at the performance of the auditorium. Think of it as a little exercise, a rehearsal.
need charging
It happens that a child during a speech calling mom or runs up to the parents in the audience. It is necessary to recharge the baby and reinforce a sense of security. And it is important to get it recharged. Hug crumbs, take your hands, kiss, and then navigate to the scene.
Looking at the child from the audience, be sure to smile. When the little actor catches a critical view of the adult, they feel vulnerable. In the end, if the crumb was wrong, lost - nothing catastrophic has happened. And if mom or dad feel disgraced, perhaps it is a matter of personal immaturity and vulnerability?
How to set up a child for the morning: 5 Tips
Do not put off studying rhyme for the last time - the best week of every day to repeat the words that pipsqueak knows their role on the machine.
Play at home in a morning: let the kid will dance, sing and tell the verse, as the leading party.
Have your child tell a verse with his eyes closed... or standing on one leg.
Give your child with you to the matinee small talismanchik - bracelet, brelochek, a small toy. And tell me what this thing is to protect the crumbs and remind - I'm with you.
Try to make sure that someone from the family was definitely on morning. But if it happened that did not come out, pass through the teacher for a kid drawn to you "letter" - a leaflet with emoticons, hearts and words of support. Let this letter will put the young actor in the pocket or hold in your hand.
Before matinee (and beyond), take your child to the toilet.
After the holiday, praise and thank the child for his statement, and in the evening - tell all the relatives who were not on the holiday as a wonderfully made your young actor, he tried, as great singing, dancing, smiling, and you them proud.
