For parents, the appearance of the kid - a joy. And for the older child - stress. How to prepare for the birth of his brother or sister, to minimize the negative consequences?
The ideal age gap between a senior and the youngest child psychologists call 4-6 years. At this age, children are asked to brother or sister, and not in need of parents, as in the rest of the period. Although in this period will be minimal stress, it would still be. But we can minimize it
Tell of an important event.When he learned that the oldest child is categorically against the younger, parents to the last hiding interesting position. Like, where he go? Endure-slyubitsya. Then the child learns from adults about strangers pregnancy Mom. Feels betrayed and unwanted - in fact all hid from him. Notify in advance that the child had time to get used to the thought of the upcoming changes.
Involve your child in preparing for childbirth. The choice of the name, the colors cot - help the child to feel involved and closer to the newborn.
Do not berate yourself for the emotions. Oldest child might not be happy to younger appearance. It's his emotions, it is eligible. He may say different things, sometimes frightening: throw the baby out the window, I will not love, it is better not come back from the hospital. Do not be ashamed of it emotions. He is afraid of the truth, now that you will not love him. Speak with him his feelings.
Discuss changes. To pretend that nothing has changed there is no sense. The first year will be challenging for the whole family. Tell your child about it. Only strongly do not frighten him - about cracked nipples he does not necessarily know.
Tell your child about his first year or two of life. You can see the album together, remember how you were waiting for him, that he too was in the tummy. Explain that the brother or sister will be born, too, so helpless and older kid can show concern about it.
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