There is quite an interesting approach to the education of children, the so-called "Tibetan view" of education. We suggest you familiarize yourself with the basic principles of this approach and decide to what extent it is acceptable just to your family.
Up to 5 years. With a child should be treated as a king. Can not prohibit anything, just distracting. If he does something dangerous, something to make a frightened face and issue a frightened cry. The child understands this language perfectly. At this time laid the activity, curiosity, interest in life. The child is still unable to build long logical chain. For example, he broke an expensive vase. He does not understand that the purchase of such vases have to work hard to earn money. Punishment he will perceive as the suppression of a position of strength. You will teach him not to beat vases, and obey the one who is stronger. It is necessary to you?
From 5 to 10 years. At this time with the child should be treated "like a slave". To set them tasks and require their implementation. Can be punished for non-compliance (but not physically). At this time actively developing the intellect. The child must learn to predict people's reactions to his actions, to cause a positive attitude toward themselves and avoid negative manifestations. At this time, do not be afraid to load the child's knowledge.
From 10 to 15 years. How to raise a child in this period? How to handle it? As an equal. Not on an equal footing, namely "as an equal", as you will still have more experience and knowledge. Consult him on all important issues, provide and promote independence. Impose its will in the "velvet gloves" in the process of discussion, tips, advice. If you do not like something, then accentuate its attention to the negative consequences of avoiding outright bans. At that time, it formed the autonomy and independence of thought.
After 15 years.Treat him with respect. Raise the child was too late, and you just have to reap the fruits of their labors.
What are the consequences of these can cause a failure to comply with the rules?
- If you suppress a child under 5 years old, then you suppress its vitality, zest for life, intelligence. Teach him thoughtlessly and habitually obey the brute force. Make of it an easy target for all sorts of villains.
- If you continue to lisp after 5, the child will grow infantile, unable to work and in general to the spiritual efforts.
- If you take care of the baby as a little after 10, then it will grow uncertain, it will be dependent on a more independent friends who may not always have the desired impact.
- If you do not respect the child after 15, then he will not forgive and go forever as soon as possible.
