I want to ask you: if you are in a relationship where you are not appreciated, where you are not listened to and do not respect you, then why are you putting up with this? Here you tell your partner that you do not like that he speaks negatively about your relatives, and he continues to do it. You ask him not to smoke in the apartment, and he continues to do so again. You beg him not to stay long after work, but he still goes to meet his friends. And why do you tolerate it? What is the meaning of your feat? It’s bad for you to live like this, it’s uncomfortable for you, but you still endure!
If the partner does not hear you and does not want to hear, why are you again looking for some kind of compromise? Compromise is possible only if both partners are interested in it. And if not, what is the point of your body movements?
Just imagine, you bought yourself insanely beautiful sandals that look incredibly beautiful on your foot. You put them on for a meeting, and after half an hour you erase your legs to lacerations. You come home, take off this beauty, soak your feet in cold water, seal the wounds with a band-aid. And put them on again the next day. What do you hope your feet will get smaller, or that your shoes will break? After all, nothing will happen. They are uncomfortable. So it is with relationships, if they are uncomfortable for you, if you try to seal your lacerations with a band-aid day after day, and then you get them again and again over and over again, then why don’t you change anything? Why don't you change?
Absolutely everything has a price. If you are walking down the street like that, and some men whistle at you, there is only one price. If you walk in high heels, and you are paid big money for this exit, the price is different. But why are you in pain?
And it's the same with food. If you don't like something, you won't eat it, will you? Or will you choke on the same dish every day, in the hope that you will eventually like it?
It's one thing if, say, you were sailing on a ship, it crashed, and you are forced to eat something tasteless in order to survive. Another thing is that when you are on the ground, you have a choice, but you still choke on some kind of filth.
If it is easier for you to close your eyes to your partner and how he behaves, you have come to terms with his behavior, disrespect, insults addressed to you - it means that this is the very price that, in principle, arranges.
If it seems to you that a person has begun to behave towards you like a complete goat, this does not mean that you are now in such a period, he is tired, he is testing your boundaries or that he is trying assert itself. Most likely, this person is simply a goat. And there is simply no other explanation for his behavior and cannot be. And you endure all this, so it suits you. You can sigh all your life because of your partner’s behavior, complain about him to friends and family, but you can’t change anything. What's the point of complaining if you're not going to leave him? What will it change?
What to do if a person behaves like a goat? Trying to find a compromise? Start working hard on relationships? Become more understanding and reserved? Interest him as a person? Silence without showing character? In general, be silent, no matter what happens? No, you just need to take and take off these uncomfortable shoes, and go quietly into a better life.
Difficult, scary, the unknown scares. Nothing, it’s like that for everyone, it’s scarier to think about it, but as soon as you decide, feel the lightness!
Learn to listen to yourself, understand your needs, understand whether what you wear is convenient for you and what you eat tastes good! If not, then look for something else, something that will really suit you!
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