In the garden your child is called the "golden child", the grandmother says that "the baby until you come parents behaved admirably," the pope easily gets along with his son ...
A mother should stay with the child, as the emotions boil, my nerves are stretched, and the tears are ready to gush from his eyes. Mother's tears. Why is it that my mother child behaves worse, turning into a hurricane chaos?
The good news is that this situation is not unique, and the bad behavior of the child - this is not a sign that a bad mother. Here are 3 reasons of bad behavior with his mother.
1. Mother's unconditional love
Psychologists know that children are less likely behave with those who are most like and trust. A child with a man that is bound to and trusted completely ceases to control themselves and can relax. Mom - "his own man", so the child can be with her himself. Or throw it in the loving mother all that load of emotions of self-control, which the child has accumulated all day communication in a kindergarten or a grandmother.
2. energy channel
Children are fed by her mother's emotions, if close to it. Children need the emotion from which they get their energy. It's like in the store: we are going for a cake or a new blouse, precisely in order to experience the fun and escape the sensation. And the child is a charge - it becomes such a person, from which energy can be obtained in full... and by all means. The child wants to play mother to the flow of energy - romp, run, jump, and my mother seems that a child brings forth her pranks.
3. Syndrome "chameleon"
The child resembles the chameleon: they are dependent on adults, so adjust to adults and even mimic the movement, words, habits. In addition to these "repetitions", the children imitate adults is also appropriate emotions. And as it turns out: The child has spent half a day with her grandmother and tuned in to her mood - he found the right tone of voice, intonation, speed of movement, and then... there is my mother.
And my mother is quite different! And you want to quickly switch to the mother why the child is a "systems failure", but it is in the subconscious of the child, affect his feelings and emotions, so the child comes from a complex affordable for yourself way - tantrums, pranks, provocations.
Who is to blame and what to do?
No one is to blame and harass a reproach. Stop being angry and cheat yourself, give your child time to get out of the emotional dead-end at the sight of my mother. Tell your child, "I know you're so, because bored and tired without me."
And it is desirable for you to quickly take the child with her grandmother sent home or nanny - that is, given the opportunity to switch to the child and not overwork next to two "raznozaryadovymi" people. Gradually the circle of contacts will expand at the kid, and he will learn to switch quickly and behave with all the pretty smoothly. And the idea that the child does not love you, - this is from the evil one.
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