When a man and a woman are just starting their relationship, they are both overwhelmed with emotions, they become one. They don’t even want to leave, they are drawn to each other, and this goes on for about a year. And then life begins to crowd out this, as well as communication with friends and colleagues. Therefore, both a man and a woman need to immediately understand and determine for themselves that the second half should be in the very first place. We have already talked about women. Many of them put children first, which psychologists consider wrong. Now let's talk about men.
For some reason, some representatives of the stronger sex begin to perceive their spouses as a given. The reasoning on this topic is simply terrible: the wife will not go anywhere, so you can meet friends. With similar and other thoughts and sayings, men simply ruin their marriage.
A man should be a true friend to his wife
The life tasks and problems that occur in a couple are solved by both spouses. There are no male and female duties, it went almost from ancient times. Now women work on an equal footing with men, so household chores should be divided equally. A man can become a loving, caring father, but this does not mean that children should be more important to him than a spouse. You can’t speak unflatteringly about your wife in front of children, humiliate her, insult her. You can not engage in raising a child to the detriment of marital relations. To keep the fire in the eyes of your wife, you should at least occasionally leave the children with their grandmother and take her on dates!
A man needs to trust his wife with his secrets.
A loving woman for a man becomes not only a wife, but also a lover, as well as a best friend! No family secrets can be taken out of the family nest. In particular, one should not share with anyone what the wife said, how things are in the marital bed, talk about the shortcomings of the beloved woman, ridicule and humiliate her. The wife should be the most important person to whom you can entrust absolutely all your secrets and secrets. And there is no doubt that she will be the worthy keeper of all the hidden details of her husband's life.
A wife is more important than meeting friends
Not all men are fully aware of the responsibility that falls on their shoulders after marriage. There are many worries, important matters, and it will be completely wrong if a family is waiting for a man at home, and he will linger with colleagues or have fun with friends. In the face of the woman you love, dear men, you get a wife, not a mommy, who always waits for you at home while you go out and go to cafes! A loving man understands this, and will always put his family, his wife in the first place!
Wife is the best adviser for husband
She will not lie, she will not play up, she will say everything directly, giving very useful advice. If there are some advisers from the outside, then the marriage will not last long, but will quickly begin to burst at the seams. Neither friends, nor brothers / sisters, nor mother - no one should be closer to a man than his wife. If this happens, the family turns into only a pitiful semblance, and in this case, a woman who values herself will certainly leave. Practice shows that those advisers who supposedly want to do the best actually spoil everything.
Don't get addicted to social media
Unfortunately, now social networks have become a part of our lives. Interesting videos, an endless stream of information, communication with friends, colorful photos. Communication on the network has replaced live communication with people. And, unfortunately, many men, in order to spend evenings talking with their spouses, stick out on the Internet. This will not make the relationship better in any way, but will only lead to greater discord.
Dear men, before marrying a woman, think about whether you can completely trust her with your secrets, wait for her advice, forget about parties and constant meetings with friends? Will your spouse be able to rely on you in everything and be sure that she is in the very first place for you? This is reality, not a game, so there is no need to ruin the lives of others if you are not ready for a healthy relationship and a normal family life! Because the wife should be the most important thing for her husband and the most important thing!
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