You counted how many times a day do you pronounce this word against his child? Surely you do not have time, and scientists have, and they found that the average mother says the child categorical "no" from 15 to 55 times during the day. What's the big deal, you ask?
And the fact that the word "no" should only exist for a number of very important cases: when the health of the child's life is in danger, or your restless just about could harm another child health. In other cases, a categorical "no" should be replaced by other words. Otherwise, important "no" to lose because of their value, and when the baby is in danger, he can ignore my mother's "no" is the signal.
situation SOS
In some cases, your "no" would be entirely appropriate and accurately tell the child that the way he does, you can not do that.
- Kid tries to run out into the roadway.
- Pipsqueak wants to draw water from the toilet bowl.
- He is trying to get home first aid kit.
- Try food from the dog feeders.
- Attempts to thrust the stone (button, etc.) in the nose.
- He pulled a kitchen knife and trying to them to saw the stool.
- Revolves around the plate on which the food is cooked in boiling pots.
- The child fights with her brother or sister, with other kids on the playground.
- Beats mother or father (grandparents).
In these and similar situations, it is important to show your child where you can not move the borders.
10 phrases instead of the standard "no"
"You think it's a good idea?" Baby, even the sly, certainly admits that his idea is not the best, and only together you figure out how to "beat the" dangerous ideas.
"Come next time. And now we do / go... "If something is prohibited or postponed, offer at least a small, but nice replacement.
"And if you say that?" This phrase you give your child to understand that you (or someone) hurt his disdain for someone attitude. And do not forget to explain why it happened and how should act.
"Oh, look, it's there! ran "So you can quickly and painlessly redirect the toddler when he's on something fixated. Invent "interesting" on the go, or better, if you need to run up to him. Running perfectly relieves stress.
"Help me, please, and then ..." You again "translating" baby negative into a positive, particularly if it is something to praise assistant, informing all home, without the help of the children of you would never have coped
"Let's think about this idea a little later. We will definitely work something out "This postponement will soothe and distract the child, and you figured out how best to proceed.
"And let us, instead, you do this!" As you know, we translate the negative into a positive when, for example, offer the child does not run on the ice, and walk side by side in the snow, leaving traces of funny.
"We'll make it in the afternoon / after bathing / after the movie / after the occupation" Baby calm down, because the ban is not good, and shall be comforted expectation.
"Yes, it's fun to play with," Let's write down in your wish list before the end of the month / birthday / New Year " Or invite your child to start saving money on her. The main thing - to show that tantrums and boorish behavior, you will not tolerate. At the same time it gives a lesson that you can not have all the desired at once - so educated patience and the right attitude towards money.
"Well, we'll buy a dog / cat / hamster, but you have to pass a little test ..." Agree with your child every day, he would get up an hour earlier to walk the pet / brush cell / feed, etc.
If the child agrees, you can wake up and offer to sit with a plush toy in the kitchen. Usually the child "suffereth" after the 1-2 morning "range" teddy bear.
P.S. There are times when the child is already setting in hysterics, and you just need to take the armpit and carry / take home, none of the arguments already will not work. And sometimes the baby should just laugh unexpected "Cuckoo! Woof! Meow! Oink! ". It works - we checked.
