We are all different, so in life often have to meet and interact with people who are us, to put it mildly, unpleasant. How to learn to be kind to them and do not get annoyed if you can not avoid contact.
"Love can not be," says the proverb, but sometimes life confronts us with their heads not very nice people, communication with which we can not limit. This may be a co-worker, my mother's best friend or husband's relatives. What to do in such a situation, how to build communication with "unpleasant"smart people?
Recognize that you can not please everybody.People are different, with different education, perception of the world and the system of values that is what often becomes a cause of dislike. Failure to take each other's interests and opinions generates conflicts, but it is important to understand that the poor are not alone People who you do not like, just had other values in life. In addition, you are not perfect and absolutely do not have to please everyone. When you accept the fact that not necessarily like each other, you will be able to perceive the other person more objectively, without using the whole range of negative emotions.
Tolerate those who do not like.To be loved by all and please everyone - it is a utopia, which can drive a person to a mental disorder. People can not always hold each other, because there are different points of view and opinions, disputes. Remember, in a dispute born truth, why are not discarded and not isolate ourselves from people who have, for whatever reasons, are annoying. Such people are needed in the first place, for personal growth, they encourage you to understand something new, withdrawn from the comfort zone and help move towards success. In addition, always remember that you, too, most likely, someone does not like you, but the people you are suffering.
To be polite.The ability to remain human in any situation and not to lose face is very important, especially the ability to work in a team and get along with people. Remember, if you do not hold back and be rude or get nasty in return, people will respond to you the same, and nothing good will come of it. If you are tolerant and polite, will also apply to you. If the person is a professional in their field, try to discard personal dislike and show that you are more important than his knowledge and experience. Remember, you will never be able to gather around him, "ideal", in your opinion, people, it is a utopia, so learn to properly use what you have.
Do not expect a lot.If the person you are constantly frustrated and exasperated by their actions and deeds, cease to expect more from him. Man is so made that their personal traits are passed on to another person, expecting him to the same reaction as from himself, but it is a failing practice. So you're constantly frustrated and irritated by the fact that a person acted differently. If the person all the time does not like you're used to adjust yourself to the fact that he once again goes well, do not expect more from him, then there will be disappointment and frustration. For example, the mother in law did not help you with the first-born, and when the second grandson was born, you expect that it's changed, changed her mind, and act otherwise, and then crying into my pillow.
To analyze their behavior. Smart people never think why people are annoyed, they are looking for the cause in itself, for example, "is why I so it react? "In fact, most of what we do not like in ourselves, irritates us others. Think about why you react that way per person, find the cause and observe their reactions, perhaps it can help you to soften or change your response. But definitely easier to change yourself, your behavior or attitude toward a situation or a person, than to force the other person to change.
To keep distance. If no methods do not work and you can not hold back next to the person you unpleasant and annoying, create distance. Odakyu to another table or to another room, minimize your appointments, set the communication by telephone or correspondence. Keeping a distance, it will be easier to keep their feelings and deal with working moments.
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