Our society always adapts to stereotypes. In particular, this has an extremely negative effect on the female gender. Here, one classmate is already at 25 with two children and has been married for a long time, another has already celebrated her fifth wedding anniversary, someone even managed to be married twice in her 20s. And you are already over 30, but not a prince, or anyone else on the horizon is never found. Parents put pressure, acquaintances sigh with sympathy, and classmates and girlfriends proudly tell how they fry cutlets for their husbands and get flowers on March 8th.
Because of all these questions, statements, and the generally pushy behavior of others, women often make the big mistake of marrying the wrong person. Well, since everyone says that we need a relationship, first a wedding, then kids, then it's time. What if there is no one suitable? Well, this man seems to be nothing, though he is divorced and has three children from a previous marriage, and he runs away from alimony. Yes, and this one is not bad, cute, though he doesn’t get along with work because of his aggressive nature. Yes, and that normal one, like, well, he has sprees, but that's okay, in general, he is a prominent, handy man, although he thumps.
It is important to understand one thing, life is not a race or competition, who has more, who is better, who is happier. There are no losers and winners among us, and no prize awaits anyone. And there are no hard and fast rules, and no specific time to find the right person.
Someone really manages to meet their love in high school, and find love and harmony for a long time. years, someone only after 30 begins to think about relationships, and someone becomes happy only after divorce. There is no need to compete with anyone, if you hurry, you can suffer very serious losses.
And you don’t have to stay with a person if you are uncomfortable with him, but it’s already “time”. And no one has the right to force you to start a relationship, get married, build a family, have children. No need to listen to caring acquaintances who hint that the clock is ticking, that being alone is bad, that it is necessary, so that like everyone else. If you follow this crush, you can end up choosing the wrong one, instead of waiting for your own.
If a person managed earlier, this does not mean at all that he received the best. So a classmate who, at 25, already with two children, may be very unhappy, because she is constantly faced with her husband's infidelities. And the one that celebrated the fifth wedding anniversary, perhaps, hides her husband's beatings from everyone. And will anyone tell you about it? Of course not! Nobody talks about this, everyone just creates a beautiful picture, and tries to shut up others, humiliating them, calling them losers.
You deserve the best and don't settle for anything less. Stop being afraid of being alone. Sometimes it's better to be alone than with the wrong person for the rest of your life. After all, you will be an unhappy woman. You will live in dreams of a better life, wishing for something that will never happen to you.
Of course, there are no ideal people. But the most important and best thing in life is to be close to the person you love and who loves you.
No need to rush, you need to act wisely and be patient. You do not have to run headlong to the registry office to please someone. You have to be a happy woman, because that's what you deserve.
And it doesn't matter if you get married a little later than others, it is important that you connect your life with the right person. And it really will be the best decision in your life!
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