Any words we say can hurt a person very much. Especially in moments of severe pain, resentment, during a quarrel, we often do not follow our words at all, and on emotions we sometimes give out things that we are very ashamed of in the future. Then the quarrel itself, of course, will be forgotten, you will make peace with the person, but the words spoken will be deposited in your head, perhaps forever. There are very toxic phrases that can trample on any relationship, both friendly, and with relatives, and with a man / woman. They eat up all the intimacy, trust that lies at the heart of any relationship.
“If something does not suit you, we can get a divorce”
Divorce blackmail is just stupid business. If you don’t like something there, and you really want to get a divorce, just sit down, explain everything and go calmly to the registry office. But these stupid threats of divorce, as a means of solving the problem, are some kind of nonsense. What do you want to hear in response: “No, just not a divorce”, “I realized everything, I’m sorry” and so on, depending on the situation? Sooner or later, something will click in the partner's head, and he will really agree to a divorce, moreover, he will file an application himself. If you don't care, then you will part sooner, stop torturing each other.
"Hate you!"
Such a phrase during a quarrel can fly out when there is simply nothing to add, when you want to hurt feelings, but in fact show how hurt and offended you are. You will shout these words in a fit of anger, and you will not feel anything, and the one to whom you say them will really feel broken and unnecessary, unloved and worthless. Keep your tongue under control.
"This is complete nonsense"
All people are different, we all may have different habits, opinions, character traits, behaviors. Perhaps it also seems to you that the partner behaves somehow stupidly, says some stupid things, but in a relationship you need to show tolerance. If people love each other, then they accept with all the shortcomings, and do not poke at every mistake, like kittens with their noses in a puddle. You must support each other, not condemn, you must accept each other, not criticize. This is the key to a good, healthy, strong relationship.
"It's not a male/female thing"
We have long been living in those times when men and women are equal in their rights. Now there are no male and female professions, now both men and women work on an equal footing, and sometimes ladies also succeed. And there is nothing wrong if a man cooks dinner or cleans instead of his wife. Each family is individual, and only you decide who performs what duties in it.
"I'd rather not talk about that"
Yes, of course, sometimes it’s even useful to stop the scandal just to breathe. But, when any conflict situations are not resolved, if two quarreling people do not come to some kind of solution, then this is very bad. It is very important to discuss controversial issues, otherwise there will be a distance, an abyss, negative feelings will begin to accumulate, which will greatly spoil any relationship.
"You are all / all in the father / mother"
Such a comparison, if it carries some kind of negative connotation, is generally unacceptable. During a quarrel, you need to talk specifically about the problem, and not get personal.
"Get away from me / It doesn't matter to me"
If a person comes to you with a problem and wants to discuss it, then you need to discuss it, even if it doesn’t seem like a problem to you.
"Calm down already / don't think about it"
Such calls for reassurance are unlikely to help find it. Much better to express your sympathy and support.
Take care of your loved ones!
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