Sometimes an envious person is very difficult to figure out, because he may be too close to us. Well, how can you think of a relative or friend that he is jealous of you? It's hard to believe, of course. But there are signs that will honestly tell you that there is an ill-wisher nearby. He only smiles in your eyes, but in fact, envy eats him from the inside.
So, here are the signs that someone is jealous of you:
A person praises you, but somehow falsely
He gives you compliments that sound sarcastic and passive-aggressive, but are still pleasant. Praise will pour on you exclusively in your presence, but there will be no admiration when you are not around. Be careful. Of course, you should not immediately take any compliments with hostility, but if they come from the mouth of someone from whom you did not expect it at all, be careful.
Man underestimate your success
Despite all your efforts and achievements in something, the envious will always be dissatisfied. He will say that you are not such a good fellow, that you did not work so hard, and that you were just lucky in general. Moreover, he will give quite rational arguments to what was said, and he can say it insultingly and rudely. No need to argue, no need to switch to raised voices, otherwise the envious person will trample your achievements into the mud even more. Do not deny your accomplishments, but also be humble. Do not brag, otherwise envy will haunt you.
The man talks a lot about his successes
Yours, therefore, belittles, but simply inflates your own to the skies. It's just that the envious person wants you to envy him, to realize that their life is better, and that they themselves are much better than you. And in fact, they are not so successful, they just want to appear so. Sincerely rejoice for the person, show him how to respond to other people's successes.
The person imitates you
At first it will seem to you that you are just an example for a person, he wants to be the same as you. But in fact, he wants to be better than you, he wants to outrun you, outdo you. He can copy your style of dress, demeanor, rub against you day after day, but as soon as he is more lucky than you, he will laugh at you and poke his finger at you. What does this say about his lack of culture, but if you start to scandal and prove to the envious that you are not so bad, this will only aggravate the situation.
The man is trying to beat you
A point emerging from the previous one. In addition to the fact that the envious person is trying to imitate you, he is constantly competing with you. So he bought a suit like yours, only more expensive and of better quality. You bought yourself a car, he will fit into loans, and he will also buy, but cooler than yours! He wants to prove his superiority over you. Do not fall for these cockroach races, give up these games, be smarter.
Man rejoices in your failures
An envious person will not openly show his joy at your mistake. But inside he will boil a storm of emotions. But it is impossible to completely hide your mood, and you will still notice something was wrong. Do not try to panic, be offended or arrange a showdown. Better show that mistakes don't upset you. After all, they are part of our life, help to gain experience and motivate us to become better.
He gossips behind your back
As I said, an envious person can smile in your eyes and release compliments, but behind your back he will spread bad rumors. This is very unpleasant, and not everyone is ready to endure it. Try to call a person to a frank conversation, ask him what he needs, what he wants from you, ask, looking into your eyes, if he is jealous of you. Do not criticize or attack the envious person, it is better to take pity on him, offer help, see how he reacts!
He hates you
If a person from your environment hates you for no obvious reason, then most likely he is just jealous of you. You are powerless here. Just don't beat yourself up. It’s just that we often think when a person is rude to us that we are really to blame for something, thereby arousing his displeasure. And you can only be guilty of one thing - everything works out for you, you achieve success, you are better than an envious person. Just do not communicate with this person, so as not to spoil your mood!
How do you deal with the envy of others?
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