We often think that we know those around us very well. And how unpleasant it becomes for us when it suddenly turns out that a person pretended not to be who he really is. But you can find out everything in advance by deliberately creating situations that compromise the person with whom you communicate.
Here are situations that will help you with this
Serious scandal/controversy
It is clear that communication without conflicts is basically impossible. We are all different people, each of us has his own opinion, his own outlook on life. And we remain tolerant when it comes to some unprincipled things. But when a person's values, his convictions, his well-being are affected, no nerves can stand it anymore. Not everyone manages to control themselves and remain polite and peaceful. A person begins to feel threatened, and not everyone behaves with dignity. Someone closes in himself, falling into a stupor, and someone begins to throw a real tantrum, appearing in front of others in a very frightening way. In general, the true face is revealed!
Moreover, when there are serious disagreements, everything that he may have been hiding from others for many years usually comes out of a person. And sometimes he cannot restrain himself, hits at the most painful, is not shy about any expressions and does not even try to find words.
Competition
We sometimes have to get involved in “competitions” in life. For example, at work, everyone wants a promotion, wants to be the best. It is clear that healthy competition helps a person to become better, motivates him to achieve, teaches him to fight. And it's all about how a person does it. At such moments, the true face of a person is also revealed. What he is capable of for the sake of victory, how he behaves after a defeat. You can learn a lot about someone who you thought was fully known and understood.
Illness/death of loved ones
It is during the illness or death of loved ones that those around them show their true colors. Someone helps, supports, and someone tries not to interfere, or even gloats at someone else's pain! And yet, a person also shows himself real when he gets sick! After all, he becomes vulnerable, and some hidden traits of his character can come out.
Furniture repair/assembly
Psychologists recommend that couples in love glue wallpaper at the very beginning of a relationship. This is such a test for compatibility, for tolerance. Agree, who was doing the repair, as he starts to rage, and, of course, the one who mixed the glue incorrectly or accidentally touched the level falls under the arm. This is where the true face of a person is revealed. If you were able to make repairs with your lover, and did not quarrel, then you definitely have a chance for a good relationship.
So it is with furniture. To collect it you need: organization, patience, tolerance. So, you can see how a person behaves when something does not work out for him, and how he reacts if someone is slow-witted and clumsy!
Financial difficulties
This is a huge test for any person when he has a shortage of money. But, if you believe in yourself, this will not upset you, but, on the contrary, will motivate you to more productive activities. No, you won't be happy, of course, but you won't panic either. But there are people for whom financial problems become a true disaster, they begin to rush about, as if the end of the world is coming. And they begin to show themselves from a very ugly side. Well, of course, you should not forget that the true face of a person is revealed when he borrows from someone and it's time to pay him back, or when you ask for a loan.
In each of the situations described above, there is a provoking factor that rips off a fake mask from a person and shows his true face. So, if you want to get to know a person, you simply can’t think of a better way than to artificially create such situations!
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