It is generally accepted that men are callous, cold, and they do not need all this "this" at all. But, I hasten to assure you that all "this" is necessary for men, but not every woman understands what exactly is needed, since everyone equates the situation with themselves. It seems to us that what one needs, then the other will also be happy.
But, it's not.
All people are different, and everyone needs something different, not everyone wants the same thing. So it is with men.
But, there is one general rule. I will write about it below.
The problem is, people don't know how to talk and talk about their needs. And if women somehow try to get what they want, then men are almost always silent and do not ask for what they emotionally simply need.
And so, let's imagine a situation where a man works every day, tries hard, and every time he comes home he gets dissatisfied with wife's face and a bunch of complaints, from "you didn't take out the trash" to "why don't we still live like millionaires, since you constantly disappear on work?"
Dear women, imagine that you will regularly receive such comments on your work. To brighten the picture, I will give an example of how you communicate with your husband and how it would look if he communicated the same way:
Why didn't you cook three courses for dinner tonight? I love diversity
Why don't we have freshly laundered towels in our bathroom every day?
Why don't you vacuum the hallway rug every time I come over?
Why don't you earn enough so that we can hire a babysitter and be alone more often?
Why crumbs on the floor?
Why are you in a bathrobe and not wearing makeup?
Why do I earn more and you do so little around the house?
The list is endless. It hurts, right? You can give a bunch of examples where your work will be depreciated daily. How will you feel after such words? Would you like to do something for the person who says it all the time? And what is the likelihood that you will want to come home in such a negative?
Remember, men also love with their ears and they love when they are admired, when their decisions are accepted and praised, when their achievements are appreciated. It is important for them that an ally, a friend and a person who will accept them for who they are are waiting for them at home.
But this does not mean that you have to put up with poverty and a slacker husband. This means that you need to praise and encourage the person for what he does, and in your own words push him to even more victory.
Another question is, if you do not accept your husband as he is, and if he does not suit you at all, then leave him alone and leave.
Agree that "We always do not have enough money (disgruntled and angry face)" and "It would be great if you earned more and we could live better (with a smile)" sound different? And if more often you praise and push for success, then the result will be different. Not right away, but he will.
It is clear that everyone gets tired and it is impossible to be positive all the time. But remember, your negativity only makes things worse. And daily short phrases of praise and words that you want to live better work more effectively. Why bother with yourself and others? The situation will not change from this.
