Where is the line between the possible and the impossible, between the free and uncontrolled, independent and rude, unbearable and favorite child? She goes through my mother's nerves and Dad's principles... All solved, but still!
It really is not that difficult - all we have learned to keep correctly spoon, use a knife and fork, go to the toilet, say "thank you" and "please". Therefore, your child will learn the etiquette, but only with your help, calmly and without hysteric! To do this, and there is parental patience, understanding the psychology and physiology of the child, but the most important thing - it is a boundless love for him!
By and large, with good manners pipsqueak learn one way or another: this is the case as well as with education in general. It is impossible to teach a child to shake hands, wash your hands, use a napkin at the table, if you yourself do not. However, there are some things that are unique just for 2-3-year-old gentleman or lady of the same age. For example, neither mom nor dad would think of pick up and roll up naked in a room where guests sit and drink tea... And candy in these very select guests parents will not. And children can. Easy! Where to go from shame and whether it is necessary to sink into the earth, and from there to curse their crumbs?
It has long been a thing of the past Soviet canons of education, it is time to learn democratic and humane towards the child. So let's forget many, imposed on us by someone from taboo century of repression and walking in the form and order.
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1. A child can run around naked and dirty for a walk
- Remember the kid is exploring the world through the senses, so he runs barefoot across the floor, feeling the feet as differs from the carpet tiles in the kitchen (and yes: Dr. Komarovsky says that it is normal, when the foot cold). Naturally, the child is not ashamed of his body and takes pleasure in being growing by leaps and bounds. Therefore, if the kid and undressed, and even appeared before the clear the eyes of visitors, do not start to shame, let alone criticize. React calmly. The less negative emotions you show, the better crumb will treat your body and the faster you will be able to wear it, if you think that the lack of clothes threatens health.
- Philosophical about the crumbs to the desire to touch the snow, ice, and then, when it's all melted, dirty water from puddles and mud itself. You probably have with wet wipes to clean little face with handles and traces of his active knowledge of the world.
- And remember: the child must not return from a walk neat! Of course, if you grow a creative and a free man, not a robot, the main advantages of which are accuracy and diligence.
2. Pick your nose is permitted, but only with a napkin
With the same tenacity with which the kid is studying bowels of the earth by using shovels or grabelek, he studies the depths of his tiny cute nose. Even my mother is not very nice to admire the fact that he derives therefrom. And for him, it is practically the same treasure, like a fragment of a piece of glass that was able to dig in the sandbox.
What to do? Sandbox to check before you run to the children, and researchers to learn to use a napkin from a very early age. Shows how to blow your nose, it helps hold the spout until it learns to clean thoroughly, but no bleeding. And tell her husband that when he was standing at a traffic light, a child and everyone else can see what he does with his nose.
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3. You can and should say "thank you" and "please"
Of course, while still a child does not realize that every time we hear "please" and "thank you" to our subconscious mind gets the signal that we are valuable, important, respected. But now he likes to play the "give" and "on." You have the chance to change the rules. Say "Let please", "Take, please," "thank you, that he gave me." The child will copy you. Of course, not everything will turn out right.
Therefore, do not arrange demonstration performances: "Until you say" please "- do not get!" It's humiliating. Even if you're only 2 years. Just say the magic words more often and smile at the same time. Let a child they are associated with something good, not with threats and punishment.
4. The child shall not be obliged to kiss grandma and playing with his uncle or aunt
Not always the kid on the team enthusiastically kissing grandmother, grandfather or other relatives... Love can, as we know, you will not. Not to aggravate the situation repeated requests: pipsqueak has every right not to want to kiss, cuddle or play at the moment. Tell relatives, not to offend, he was "shy ..."
5. The child may become angry
Child (and his parents) is not always possible to control their emotions. Sometimes he is happy, sad, angry - and all this for a minute. At the time of the best ways to stress - a hug, pat, to whisper in your ear something distracting. As a last resort, take your hands and blow away from the "hot spot".
6. It is not necessary all the time to build a child: it's okay to indulge in childhood childhood
Regressive behavior when baby forgets that knows how to use the potty, asks his mother's breasts, and even refuses to speak properly as he can - this is normal, if the house there was a newborn brother or sister. Envy the little king, who felt that he had taken not only the throne, but also subjects, suggests the only way to get this back: to be like this tiny impostor.
Parents need not scold eldest (he had the honorary role, but he did not ask you about it), but to try to give him a sufficient amount of attention. And come alone. That is not only nice to chat when you feed the baby, but, after putting the crumbs, toys or books to take an older child and a minimum of 30 minutes to spend with him without the presence of the younger. Look in the eyes, hug, caress. Calm down, saying that her mother two handles and two baby. Road two handles and two kids.
7. If a child touches the private parts in front of others
Touching the genitals relaxes not only mothers and fathers, but also children. Physiology: what can you do! Children's masturbation becomes noticeable when the baby diaper is removed, accustom to the pot, put on shorts and all the fun is in range.
Do not make a tragedy, do not be shy and not too shaming crumbs.
- At this age it is permissible
- forbidden fruit is sweet, and even more desire.
The situation will help to solve clothes, impedes access to the body, calm explanation: "We do not do that in the store." Distract, entertain, help relax and have fun in other ways. Do not start to criticize, monitor, control: because of escalating the situation in childhood later arise wrong attitude to one's own body and sexual disorders.
8. The child is exploring the world: indulge and experiment
As we all know, that the zone of proximal development - a key moment in the education (for the child not to do that he was able to do it yourself), then we try to give the baby more freedom and fewer restrictions. And then sharply raises the question of safety. Children are impulsive: they see the goal - not to see obstacles.
Your task - to explain what is the height (window, stairs), electricity, fire, boiling water and hot equipment, road, animals. Do not bully, and to explain and control. Show, for example, a light bulb or a small car, throw the window down and show pieces. It is a pity, of course, but easy to understand. In most democratic family pipsqueak must know the word "No!".
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9. With food you can play
Moms who primarily appreciate the cleanliness in the kitchen and no stains on clothes, are usually fed with spoon child age 4-5, and then wonder why the kid, nothing interesting and nothing delicious. Give your child a sense food texture. Unfortunately, nature has not come up with other ways to do this, but to climb a hand in a bowl, and then smear it all on the table, or on its own. Wait for the baby to satisfy their curiosity, and then quietly show that all this must be removed.
Psychologists and experienced moms say that the child does not play with food longer than it is necessary for development. Show that you and Dad get the pleasure of eating, taking advantage of the knife and fork, buy special equipment for children, and you will be surprised how quickly a new "game" will entice the baby.
And yet, to be able to wait and wait for your turn - almost lost skill in modern children living in the age of speed and lack of queues in the shops. Well, there is no queues, bad that the kids can not wait at all: they do not wait until an adult contract, interrupt and demand attention whether serious conversation you or mom talking on the phone with girlfriend. Convey that interrupt the bad ( "Now Dad has finished, and then you say"), but do not make crumbs 20 minutes wait to ask you for a glass of water. sense of self-worth in a child should remain intact, it is necessary that it has not grown insolent... How?
Give him enough attention, and took the phone, let them know that you will be busy. Sometimes it is better to interrupt the conversation, pay attention to the child, and then come back to the conversation.
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