Men are also able to wind themselves up in relationships to the top of insanity, they can begin to doubt themselves, analyze a lot of everything that happens, etc. They are just silent, not showing their experiences. Meanwhile, there is a problem. And let's figure out the reasons that your partner began to cheat himself!
Comparison with the former
This is especially true if the same ex was handsome, successful, rich, smart, etc. then constant comparisons begin. Your man may worry if you are really capable of loving him for who he is. He begins to wind himself up, thinking, what if you just want to forget your ex with the help of him. He begins to drive on the topic, suddenly he needs to change something in himself, in his behavior, in his appearance. And sometimes everything comes to the point of absurdity, and he begins to copy the former.
In this, I think men and women are alike. After all, we, too, can feel some kind of threat from a former partner. But this usually happens only at the very beginning of the relationship, if in the future there are no reasons for this.
A man worries about whether he is good enough for you.
Even if you have a tough macho in front of you, this does not mean that he is completely lacking in self-doubt. As soon as a man falls in love with a woman, he wants to make a good impression on her, and here some flaws come up.
Then, instead of focusing on his merits, the man begins to doubt himself, considers himself not good enough: not smart enough, beautiful, rich, charismatic and etc. And the most interesting thing is that rarely any man is able to admit this, because it is so customary in our society that a representative of the stronger sex must be physically and emotionally strong.
A man is afraid that you will leave for someone better than him.
If a man has low self-esteem, he begins to worry that you will leave him and go to someone else. And, by the way, almost all adequate men are afraid of this, because they consider their partner better than them. And if a woman is better, then the man is not worthy of her, and that means that she can always find herself a much better option.
Loss of independence
Independence is very important for every man. Try to take it away, and they will feel that an essential part of their personality has been taken away from them. For example, your partner may feel that your relationship with him may become a trap for him. What if you prohibit him from seeing friends or will encroach on his hobbies? What if you start to change him, breaking his habits? What if you make him spend all his free time exclusively with you? What will he do then?
Almost every man has such thoughts in his head!
Fear of losing masculinity
For some reason, some men are afraid that relationships can make them somehow effeminate. Love, it changes everyone, so the partner fears that he will, like a sissy, walk with you by the hand. In general, a solid romance will begin, which he does not invest in his masculine image in any way. What if he opens up to you emotionally?
Fear of losing the spark
Now there is passion between you, everything is bright, juicy, unforgettable. But, what if over time this spark goes out, and the man regrets that he entered into a serious relationship? Suddenly he will no longer be interested, because is it really interesting when there is no longer a spark?
They say that women have some kind of cockroaches in their heads, and that it is generally impossible to understand them. But, as it turned out, men also have thoughts about relationships, and they can drive them around from day to day, winding up and torturing themselves!
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