You can love, completely trust and remain loyal to a man. But you cannot control what other people are doing, and you cannot control how you react to the situation. Treason... The word is unpleasant, causing pain and suffering. How to be brave and how to hide your pain from others? Better focus on how to get through it!
Here are tips to help you cope with cheating.
Don't go back to it
In vain, the forgiveness of betrayal is considered by many to be female wisdom. What a pity for those women who turn a blind eye to the betrayal of a partner and live with him further. But there are situations when cheating was really a mistake, and you do not dare to disperse forever. Then, at a minimum, you need to be separate so that the man can understand how he came close to losing you.
Yes, it will hurt you, there will be days when you want to send everything to hell and return to him, even knowing that he has betrayed you. But take your time, you will not find comfort in his arms. Look for consolation in communicating with family and friends, otherwise you will simply be blinded by your love, and will be drawn into toxic relationships. You can't just close your eyes to treason like that, otherwise the man will understand that he has been forgiven once, forgive the second.
No need to blame yourself
No matter how your relationship turns out, don't blame yourself. If your cheater is also a manipulator, and is trying to shift the blame for what happened on you, do not get fooled. People can change for many reasons, but it is only on their conscience, it is their choice and their responsibility. No need to delve into yourself, looking for the reason that is wrong with you, that he cheated on you.
Don't take revenge on him
You may be angry, offended, hate him, or even come up with a plan for revenge. But just don't bring it to life! Understand that your anger is temporary. Perhaps you will never forgive him at all, but you will continue to live. Do not act in such a way that later you would be ashamed. Do not show emotions, do not make scandals and tantrums, do not need any gossip, damage to property, treason in return, etc. You must be above all this!
Have an affair
You just need to distract yourself, you should not cry into your pillow for the rest of your days. It is clear that you are in pain, but life goes on. Stay home, have fun, go on a date with someone, remind the world of yourself. There are many other men in the world, and you are an attractive woman. Just do not rush headlong into a new relationship. A wedge can be wedged and knocked out, but you can hurt another person, which is wrong.
Go in for sports
You need to distract yourself. Watching TV shows, drinking alcohol, reading books - all this can only aggravate the situation. It is better to do something active, so sports will help you relieve stress and anger. And also when playing sports, hormones of joy are produced.
Take up a hobby
Often a person is so immersed in a relationship that he stops pursuing his hobbies and hobbies. It's time to change that!
No surveillance on social media
You are drawn to look at his page, and see what he is doing there, when he was online, to whom he liked, what he posted. What if you see his new passion there, and start comparing yourself with her? Why do you need this torment? Don't blame yourself, her, him. Better stay away from social media.
Ask for help
You feel bad, lonely, and you definitely need to share your pain, your feelings, thoughts with someone. You, of course, are not obliged to tell anyone or anything, but do not be afraid to ask family and friends for help. Or maybe it would be better if you see a psychologist?
Remember, no person deserves to be betrayed. Spread your wings, you deserve more!
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