The relationship between parents and children are not always ideal. Especially challenging for many becomes adolescence. Sometimes, in order to build a "bridge" between the two generations, we have to find a lot of ways how to do it. Psychologists say that there is one universal rule that copes with this task.
Daily communication between parents and childrenGrowing up is the key to success and development of the child. How much time per day do you spend with your child? The majority coming from work, immediately begin to cook dinner, wash dishes, bathtub and adoption t. D. Then kiss and wish good night to the child. It seems to be a child and is present all the time there, but communication as such, in fact, absent.
Despite the crazy rhythm of our lives, to have time to enjoy socializing with a child, in fact, it is possible to have time off. This fact proves the rule "three minutes", recommended by psychologists.
Adhering to the rules of the highlights of the "three minutes", you can obtain the full confidence of his crumbs and transfer it to further relations with already more adult and mature personality.
- Regardless of where you come back from work or the store, behave as if you have not seen for a very long timeAnd, therefore, very bored and incredibly happy to see her fidget.
- Hug and kiss baby with the feeling that you came a long-awaited friend and you are very excited to see him
- It is important that at the moment of cuddling and talking to your child his eyes were at the same level- it will cause a lot more confidence in the crumbs to you than keep the same conversation, preparing dinner.
- It was in the first three minutes of the meeting the child is ready to talk about what he remembers about the past day. Ignoring this irreplaceable time, you can miss the chance to have a frank conversation.
- It is important at this time not to ask questionsOf interest to you purely, as they often are standard phrases, sounding in the ears of the child every day - "How are things in the garden", "What did you eat for lunch?", "Did you do lessons?" Etc...
- According to the rule of "three minutes" enough to tell your child how much you are happy to see himAnd he will tell a lot, especially that it is really interested in at the moment
- The important point of this rule is sincerity parents.Falsehood and affectedness kids recognized immediately - it is impossible to deceive them
- Implement the rule of "three" minutes necessary at an early age. Then the child will look forward to your return to share their experiences, emotions and weathered possible problems - it is essential for the crumbs. Otherwise, if we ignore such talk at an early age, waving from them due to lack of time or imaginary unimportance of the matter, little man eventually realizes that its problems are not wanted and will stop their voice, withdrawn into himself. This will lead to quarrels, misunderstanding and deception, especially in adolescence
- The rule of "three minutes" in any case does not call for spending with your child this very short period of time in a day, but it It makes it possible to eventually acquire a trust relationship,thanks to which your child will always be able, even in the most difficult moment for him, to trust it to you, not the company's peers in the yard.
You love your kids, and do not look at their deficiencies - they are all unique. Listen to your heart and to the advice of psychologists, and you will be sure to create a happy family with a healthy relationship!
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