Punishment - an essential process of raising a child, but it must be properly punished. What rules need to stick to punish, not to cause harm to the child?
Few of the parents manage to always remain calm and composure not to punish the child. Sometimes it's the only way to show your child the boundaries of what is permitted and not lose their parental authority. But it is important to do it properly, not to injure the child and do not be cruel. Here the basic principles that will help to punish the child right .
Shall be punished for the act.Punishing, always explain to kidThat you punish him for a specific bad thing, but not because he is bad. The baby can not be bad, he's good and always a favorite, but for various reasons can not perform exactly the right thing. Try to explain this to the kid that he did not feel helpless and "bad" because it is fraught with very bad consequences in his adult life.
Punish deserved.Punishment should always be fair, but do not depend on your mood and frame of mind. Before punishing, consider whether your punishment effective, if you hear the kid if the right lesson to endure. If a child played on the street and do not want to home, whether it is necessary to shout and threaten him with some prohibition? And if he is jumping and running, it is necessary to punish him, just because you have a headache? Often the mother is restrained and in control of his emotions, but breaks down on some little things, and the child gets a lot of stress and lack of understanding of the situation.
Do not punish the child in front of others.There is a rule that a child should get punished immediately after the offense, and not "reverse" number, but never chastise or scold a child in front of others, especially when peers. Take your child aside and explain to him where and why he did wrong and what should be done. Children have a short memory, so if you will be accountable for the kid long offense, it is unlikely you will understand, because I just do not remember.
Always keep your word.In order to maintain its credibility in raising a child, always keeps its promises, this also applies to penalties. If you will only threaten and "promise", but they will not, the child will no longer be considered and all your requests and will stop listening to you. So if you are promised a day without cartoons or without the sweet, kindly perform.
Fewer restrictions.Barring something a child, remember "rule nines" - one should have to ban 9 permits. If a child's life is their continuous prohibitions, then the probability that some of them will be systematically violated is very high. Arrange the clear boundaries and adjust bans, leaving only those who pose a threat to the child or others lives. Clearly marked box, ask the child's performance and obedience, if he constantly violates the border, then you can punish him.
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