Life sometimes becomes harsh, people begin to be afraid, and they also stop striving for some goals. But one goal still remains - to please others. But true friends are not won, they are found... in battle.
You don't have to be liked by anyone! There is a saying: "I am not a hundred dollar bill for everyone to like." But it is more often used by those who like to make enemies for themselves. Here he hurt someone, and the excuse is right there: "I'm not a hundred-dollar bill." Or a person has heard something bad about himself, and also says something similar.
We do not know how not to like other people! We just got used to either hate the world, because there are “enemies around”, or to adapt to each and every one in order to please everyone! But is that right?
Indeed, this is what happens to many. The world seemed to be divided into two camps. Some hate everyone around, make enemies for themselves, do not reckon with anyone's opinion. Others try, on the contrary, to be friends with everyone in a row, flatter, smile, serve, adjust. “I helped you so good!”, And if something went wrong - “I don’t like it, not my problem”. Or where did it come from that at home everything can be just awful, insults, assault and so on, but in public all family members smile, are polite, and pretend to be decent? You either be bad at home and in public, or good in both places!
Children really do not like the adult world. No, they, of course, all want to grow up quickly, but they are sure that they will not be like most of us now. Children love sincerely, they sometimes do not know how to hide their emotions, they do not try to please everyone, to adapt to everyone. They just live, smile, discover something new for themselves. And they don't like the deceitfulness of adults who are trying to please everyone. "You got a deuce, why are you disgracing me!", "Do not wear this jacket, what will people say!" etc.
And this is said by adults who sit day and night by the TV in old clothes, drink their beer until they turn blue, and then the next morning they put themselves in order, put on something beautiful, ironed, and chew gum in their mouth so that they don't smell like fumes!
There are, of course, creative achievers among adults. These are people who have not lost their thirst for justice, who know how to hate and also know how to be friends, they will not pretend to anyone, putting on a smile: "Everyone likes me", they constantly want something do. They just set goals for themselves, go to them, fall, get up, move on. And they do not dance in front of anyone, do not adjust to anyone. It is from these that scientists, politicians, businessmen, Nobel laureates are made! They are confident in their righteousness, in their own strengths, and move forward. What then turns out, they are the best, beautiful, lucky, smart? Why are they so confident? And confidence should be for no reason, then the right case will turn up!
When a person can clearly articulate his goals, say who his enemy is, then like-minded people will be drawn to him, friends will appear. And if you continue to weed out some of you, repeating: “I don’t like it - your problems”, and please others, then sooner or later you will definitely be caught and punished for “double espionage”!
First of all, it is important to determine your goals, to start loving and appreciating yourself. In no case should you give people what they want to see, want to receive, but you should not harm anyone, be rude. People around you need to respect, and appreciate yourself as you are!
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