Here are many mothers who sit with their children at home or, on the contrary, work all day, send their children to all kinds of developmental circles and classes. I do not dispute that this is to some extent very good. First, the child develops, learns something new for himself, learns something. Secondly, he communicates with other children, which means he socializes. But how does mom, well, or dad, take part in all this? They take the baby to the "destination", pay for his mugs, and what else? How do parents participate in the development and maturation of their child? Even if you do not “drag” your child to the circles, but develop him at home, how do you bring him up? Development and education are two different things!
The most important thing that parents should teach their children is independence. Many parents first take care of their little ones, not allowing them to dress, eat, collect toys on their own, and then sigh at the fact that they don’t want to put anything at all and cannot do anything. And then a plan ripens for them: "I'll give it to developing classes!" or "Isn't it time for him to go to kindergarten, they will teach everything there!" Of course, other people's aunts or uncles will teach, and then what is the function of parents - to give birth, dress, shoe and feed? And that's all, huh?
It is also important to teach a child to treat himself and others with respect. It is necessary that the child be able to be grateful, as well as be able to love. All this will not appear in it just like that. Who, no matter how parents, will explain everything and teach everything?
Parents need to understand that parenting and development are two different things. Totally different! Many parents are sure that it is at feeding and dressing-shoeing that their function ends. Well, and, of course, they are there if the baby gets sick. They will buy him toys, send him to a good school. And that's it. Well, of course, there is a possibility that they will still help with the institute.
It is very rare for parents to consult with other parents about parenting. Women are more accustomed to talking about fashion and cooking, men are interested in sports, fishing, politics.
Why bring up a child if he already behaves well? Let's say he studies well, kind, caring, brings order in the room. Is there any point in educating him if he learns everything over time? You see how it turns out: first, the parents take care of the little kid, and then they "kick out" him to explore the world on his own. They do not teach him basic things, such as respect for elders, helping the weak, etc. Is it okay - just be proud of your child's successes, support him in all endeavors, while simply doing his deeds?
No, not ok! A banal phrase: if you do not raise children, they will grow up ill-mannered. Imagine what would happen if two ill-bred people create a family? Even their life together will be terrible, besides the fact that their communication with strangers will be unbearable.
It is very difficult to communicate and live under the same roof with an ill-bred child. There are norms of behavior and accepted rules, and the child must adhere to all this, i.e. be adequate.
Good parents always raise a child. They try to make the kid become better than them, more skillful, know more, achieve more.
Good parents have an initial goal of raising a decent and happy child. So that he becomes an adult who is able to cope with the emerging problems and difficulties. Such children will be appreciated everywhere and always. First at school and then at work. After all, who is an ideal employee? This is not the one who clearly follows all the instructions of the immediate superior. The ideal employee is one who knows how to think with his own head, moreover, creatively, one who is disciplined and responsible, who takes the initiative, and does not go with the flow. Such a boss will trust the most daring and important projects. And it is these well-bred children who, when they grow up, will raise their children in the same way!
Are you raising your children? Or maybe you think that they themselves will become good people, and it is enough just to provide them materially and support them morally?
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