Very often people in love, in a fit of anger, try to tell their soulmates the most cruel things. For what? And in order to hurt more hurtful, put in place, humiliate. But it is worth realizing that this does not lead to anything good. And there are phrases that are generally better not to say during a quarrel.
Don't tell this to your loved one:
"You are to blame for everything!"
What is the use of blaming your partner? Even if he really is to blame, that will change it, but what will it be easier for you if you add oil to the fire? It is better to skip the situation, wait for the passions to subside, and then discuss who is to blame for what, and what can be done.
"But he / she always did / what I ask!"
As you understand, we are talking about exes who should never be mentioned in your conversations, especially in quarrels. And in particular, you should not compare the character, behavior, words of the former, well, or any abilities, making them ideal. You simply humiliate your partner, driving him into complexes. Is this love?
"What nonsense you are talking about!"
You probably entered into a relationship with open eyes, and immediately knew that your partner has a certain intellectual level? Why, then, to treat him so mockingly? Or are you going to make the person close in himself, and generally stop sharing something with you?
"You can't do anything normally at all!"
Do not say that. You need to thank your partner for his efforts, attempts, even if you don't like the result very much. Even if something did not work out the way you wanted, is it really a problem? After all, you can always find a way out of this situation!
"I told you"
I always say to myself: do I want to be in a right or happy situation? And I choose the second option! Do not turn into a malevolent evil monster. Is it so important for you to prove your case? Nobody is perfect, everyone is wrong. Let your partner make mistakes too, learn from it, get better. And your task is to support and love him, and not to blame him at every step!
"If you loved me /, you would not ..."
And this is a real ultimatum. Like "once you love, you have to bend, be the way I want," and so on. It is not necessary to put a person in front of a choice, but rather learn to find compromises in all controversial situations.
"What have you put on yourself!"
Instead of saying this to your partner, hide his old T-shirt somewhere and put a new one in its place in the closet. And with women it's even easier - give your loved one the opportunity to go shopping and buy something new and beautiful, and accompany her there to indicate what you like on her.
"My mom did it differently!"
Option specifically for men. Never compare your beloved to your mother. You will not make them friends like that, but on the contrary, engender hatred of the parent in your partner's head. Your half can cook borscht differently, clean it differently, and even distribute family responsibilities between you and her in some other way. Mom is mom, beloved is beloved. And your beloved will never be like your mother, no matter how much you want to. And why do you need it at all?
"You are a complete zero in bed!"
Never say such a phrase to a man! And men, too, should not belittle their partner like that. Study together, experiment, talk about your desires and fantasies, then your sex life will sparkle with bright and varied colors! A partner will not be a log if a spark is lit in him, so don't jump to conclusions!
"All of your family are losers!"
Whatever relationship your half has with your parents, brothers / sisters, grandfathers / grandmothers - never insult them, even behind their backs! Family is sacred! Even if there is some kind of discord in her, try to remain neutral.
These phrases should never be said to your loved one, if, of course, he is really loved by you!
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