Every parent wants for their child the best. But not always this desire accompanied by the correct action. Most often raise children is reduced to a simple ban. Parents day and night interpret their children that it is possible and what is not, and is available to explain why it is so and not otherwise, they simply do not have enough time. Thus achieving complete obedience, the parents do not think that before them not just a child, but a person, a person who also has his own opinion.
Of course, it is very convenient when the baby all the time listening to Mom and Dad, is subject to all of them. Parents are proud of such behavior, their joy is no limit. This frees them from the hassle and allows you to spend more time on their personal affairs.
But such education can affect the future of the baby? Will he be happy? Not having learned to make their own decisions, to defend his point of view, it can not achieve its goals in front of you. That goal and he is unlikely to be, because he used to wait for guidance from adults.
How to solve this problem? What you need to do in order to grow and self-confident child yourself?
Just give him a little freedom, opportunity under your control to make decisions. Even if these decisions are wrong, you can always explain to your child why it is better to do so, and not otherwise. The main thing is to be consistent and choose an individual approach to each situation. For example, before a walk to let the child choose what to wear. And if it's cold outside, and he wants to put on a light jacket, explain to him that so he can freeze and catch a cold. Then we'll go to the doctor, and so on. The child will understand that it is better to dress warmer.
This approach to child-rearing will take you a lot longer, but the result you teach him to develop his own opinion, will help him be a reasonable and independent.
If you just shout at the child, tell him: "It is impossible", there will be no guarantee that the next time, without your knowledge, it will try to do the same thing again. Another thing is, if you calmly talk to him, with specific examples, explain why it can not be done. So you will achieve a reasonable obedience have a child who will understand what consequences he faces if he violates the prohibition.
