Under the USSR, we learned to save money for a rainy day, to hold back our laughter so that we would not cry tomorrow, and also to feel guilty for the fact that now we are free, serene and happy. "Stop lying - you have to get out!", "What if tomorrow something happens!", "Inconvenient in front of the neighbors!", "And what will people say!" - all of this is from our Soviet past! It is difficult to remove the scoop from the head, very difficult!
When I come home from the store, everyone is so excited to try on new clothes and drink tea with delicious sweets bought only that the children are already snatching the shopping bags from me, unwrapping the candy and putting on the clothes that I, by the way, bought for yourself. And they don't do anything bad, but I'm getting nervous! Why? Because I was born in the USSR, and then new things, like expensive sweets, were a rarity, and they needed to be cared for and cherished!
Do you remember what was eaten first of the New Year's gift? The most tasteless, and at the end it was already the turn of chocolates. In our sideboards there were jars of peas, corn, mayonnaise "in anticipation" of a birthday or new year.
Before my eyes are still vinyl records and cassettes for a reel-to-reel tape recorder, a pile of books on the shelves, shopping nets and other Soviet attributes. I don’t mean to say that I am unhappy with my past. Yes, in our childhood everything was not like that, we lived by the rules, we walked in line, we tried to be good, so that they did not speak badly about us, we tried to succeed in everything. But life in the USSR was kind of tense. We practically didn’t have a rest, because we constantly needed something useful to occupy our free time. So we didn't grow up happy!
It seemed to our parents that being happy was somehow indecent. And love was not particularly welcomed. There was ruthlessness, exactingness, and all my real feelings had to be locked. Public happiness was more important than personal happiness. People worked to benefit the Union. And there was no meaning in life, the meaning was only in labor productivity! And this life, in anticipation of the "Bright future", just did not allow to enjoy life here and now. And we children were vaccinated. And they really did instill it! Now we, already adults with Soviet childhood, have some kind of immunity to happiness. We continue to live in some kind of tension, although the USSR is no longer 30 years old!
It is so difficult for us to overcome all these Soviet stereotypes, we are unable to part with our complexes and fears. And I still feel guilty for being happy about something, buying something expensive, not putting it off for a rainy day.
Even psychologists say: "Love yourself first!" But how to do this if we were not taught this in childhood? We listened to our parents, read Soviet books, we believed in a "bright future." And how now can we teach our children to love themselves? How can we teach this?
And I decided to fight myself. Now, if I like chocolates, I will buy them, not caramels, which are cheaper. I want to do nothing on my day off - I won't even lift a finger. We started to eat from a beautiful expensive set of dishes, instead of storing it for a special occasion! If you read - then only for pleasure, if you love your children - then without any conditions and reproaches!
We must learn to feel happiness! Everyone is already tired of the remnants of the Soviet past, now it's time to look for reasons for even the slightest joy, it's time to learn to live happily!
The original article is posted here: https://kabluk.me/zhizn/sovetskoe-detstvo-pochemu-nas-ne-nauchili-byt-schastlivymi.html
