You might feel like it’s a waste of time dating someone you’re not physically attracted to at all. But it is not always the case. It's just that now we live in a modern world where almost everyone is fixated on appearance. But at times, appearances can be deceiving. You just try to get to know the person deeper, you will be surprised what this can lead to!
This is why it pays to try dating someone who is not physically attracted to you.
You can really fall in love
Maybe you have common interests and values with this person, but it will be much more interesting for you together, freely, easily, well! Unlike communicating with someone who simply attracts you physically, but thinks completely differently than you do.
Not everything depends on appearance
Have you noticed that sometimes an outwardly beautiful person opens up as evil and unpleasant, while an outwardly unattractive person, on the contrary, turns out to be kind, attentive, and thus attracts? Understand that physical attraction can and will pass as soon as you get to know the person better. And the one who did not appeal to you can attract and even excite you with his character and mind!
You can be yourself
When a very handsome man is next to you, you unwittingly begin to worry about your appearance. You will begin to compare yourself with others who are more beautiful than you, and even begin to try to seem completely different from who you are. If you do not find a man attractive, you stay with him by your side! In other words, when you do not care how you look, because there is not “the hero of your novel” nearby, you are not you are shy about not wearing makeup, you allow yourself to laugh the way you want and wear it not for a day off clothes. You open up from the inside, and you recognize the inner qualities of your partner, the appearance fades into the background!
This will allow you to get to know him better.
Unfortunately, when we see an attractive man in front of us, we can close our eyes to some alarm bells emanating from him. We begin to think about how our friends will start to envy us, about how we want to kiss him. If a person is not attracted externally, you can get to know his habits, character traits much better, i.e. get to know him from the inside. There is an opportunity to have deep conversations that can develop into deep connections.
Your favorite type of men didn't get you anywhere anyway.
Everyone has a certain type of man, and you certainly do too. But how many times have you chosen just such, and your relationship has not worked out? Maybe then it is worth choosing someone else? Try it!
You have nothing to lose
You've had failed dates with ugly men, so why not go out with someone who doesn't appeal to you. You’re not losing anything! You never know until you try. Just do not deceive him and consider your communication as entertainment! Better to be sincere!
You will learn a lot about yourself
If you start dating someone you would never have met before, you may have some new conversations, you will be more relaxed, because again you will not worry about your external form. Therefore, you can open yourself to yourself from some new side!
If nothing breaks out between you, you can at least make a new friend.
If you didn't feel anything on the first date, don't jump to conclusions. Perhaps the person has not fully revealed himself, and you will still have the opportunity to “discover” him for yourself. But, if nothing broke out between you, then you can just remain friends. And there it is not known what this may lead to in the future!
You will be able to understand what you want in a relationship.
Just try, because it is the experience of different relationships and meetings that ultimately helps you discover what is acceptable to you and what is not.
Appearance - it's not the main thing!
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