Probably every woman would like to become an ideal wife and mother. But, you should immediately understand that this is not appreciated at all. You only need this to feel important, and no one else needs it!
If you, too, began to get used to a similar role, then you should know what it can develop into. This is the kind of wife you should definitely not become!
Mom wife
It's not about your children who appeared in marriage, but about the fact that some ladies are starting to raise their husbands. Understand that re-educating men is useless. Well, he likes fried borscht and fried potatoes - it's easier for him to cook this, instead of listening to reproaches about the annoying PP. And you can always cook something easy for yourself, or order delivery. Constant ironing for the husband, shoe cleaning. Are you seriously? He is a grown man, he is your husband, not your son, and he is quite capable of putting himself in order!
Servant wife
It is foolish to shoulder all household responsibilities on your fragile female shoulders, turning into a servant. A man and children should also have responsibilities around the house, and this should be done precisely so that you are not considered a servant. You don't have to turn into a housekeeper, even if you have to spend most of your time at home. You are a woman, do not forget about it! Yes, they live with such people, because it is convenient when all your whims are fulfilled at the click of a button, but what's a plus for you?
Kept wife
As for me, a woman should at least earn something, even for herself, for her petty needs. It's one thing when you decide to buy a refrigerator, TV together, or ask your husband to pay for the purchase of a microwave oven, but asking for money for hair or nails is already overkill.
Dictator wife
Psychologists assure us that from the moment the couple unites, “I” ceases to exist, but “we” appears. I have a good example, a friend got married and disappeared altogether. His wife will not let him go anywhere, he stopped communicating with friends, and the pronoun "we" began to appear in their pair. And somehow my husband still brought him to visit, they were sitting in their male company, and I worked in the next room. It was painful for me to watch and hear how my friend constantly ran to the balcony when his wife called, and came up with all kinds of excuses for her to stay longer with us. Agree, this is nonsense? And this is the most harmless option. Many wives force their husbands to work at jobs they hate, take loans, decide everything for them, and then they themselves cry: “the husband has become a rag!”.
Breadwinner wife
It's one thing when a woman wants to build a career, she likes to work, and she and her husband share a budget. Another is when she completely takes over the support of the family. An adequate man will always find where to earn extra money. But there are women who plow from morning to night, allowing their men to wait for a position suitable for them, worthy earnings. So you can wait all your life!
Wife-only mom and wife-always at work
A man needs your attention. If you completely go into motherhood or devote yourself to work, he will look for attention on the side.
Unkempt wife - spends everything on family, but not on herself
Nobody forces you to adhere to the 90-60-90 standards, but you should always keep yourself in shape, spend money on yourself, take care of yourself. Even if your finances are tight, you can’t forget yourself!
Do you have anything to add? Let me emphasize that this is just my personal opinion, and your opinion may be completely different!
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