How many times have you wondered what is wrong with me? Why do you absolutely not like what everyone else loves? Sometimes you start to get nervous about those things that in others cause tenderness and delight. And this is not because you are in a bad mood, but because you are just like that, you are such a person. You do not like a beautiful sunset, you do not like rolls and you are not delighted with the famous handsome actor Danila Kozlovsky. People are wondering what is wrong with you. I propose to deal with this!
You don't like animals
You are already sick of hearing from your friend what a wonderful dog she has. She posts pictures of him on the Internet, and everyone writes admiring comments. You just flip through these and similar pictures, because in general you hate dogs. They saved up in themselves, saved up, and expressed their opinion. From now on, your relationship with the animal lovers is cooler. Because of this, you are sad, but this does not add sympathy to the songs.
What's wrong with you?
Firstly, perhaps you did not have experience of communicating with animals in childhood, this is where your legs grow, you just you don’t understand how wonderful it can be - stroking a purring cat or patting your dog behind the ear. Secondly, you may have had sad experiences as a child. Let's say your animal died tragically, it fell ill with a serious illness, and now you simply cannot love watchdogs and purrs. Thirdly, animals embody certain character traits. For example, dogs are loyal, and cats are affectionate and independent. If you reject such animals, then you may have problems with such qualities. You want to gain independence, you want to show your best sides, but pride gets in the way, and the animals enrage.
What to do?
In any case, you should figure out what prevents you from making friends with animals. If you are on good terms with a person, then try to treat his animal the same way you treat the owner himself.
You don't like kids
Now, you don't like them at all. And you are not going to start them, but they twist you at your temple, hinting at your deviations in the psyche. Well, you don’t want to become a mother, you don’t want to stay awake, change diapers, suffer from dawn until late at night. What is it all for? No, you don't want that at all. And older children are always screaming, pestering mischievous people. It's a nightmare! Hence the relationship to you: a pretty lady, but slightly out of her mind.
What's wrong with you?
More often than not, adults who hate children are still children themselves. So fear appears, resulting in aggression. And everything comes from childhood. You may have been bullied by peers in your childhood, showing cruelty to you. Someone managed to outgrow their grievances, but they stayed with you forever, because you did not mature. Another reason is selfishness. You love yourself too much to admit into your life someone whose existence will be much more important than yours. And this is also a kindergarten. You have an immature psyche, because a person with a mature psyche consciously wants to take care of others in order to give love, to convey the experience.
What to do?
Either one day you will outgrow it, or not, but it is better not to express your opinion on every corner.
You don't like your birthday
Every birthday becomes a nightmare for you. Salad tables, fake smiles and congratulations, some silly wishes and toasts. All this already enrages you, so on your next birthday you take a day off at work, turn off your phone, and sit at home like a mouse. Or you go somewhere farther away so that you are not found.
What's wrong with you?
The saddest version of your problem is deep self-rejection. You are not sure of yourself, you do not like yourself, and being the epicenter of attention for you is still a challenge. Perhaps there is resentment towards their parents, especially towards the mother. After all, everything related to the birth is associated with the mother. If the relationship with the mother is strained, then the birthday turns into the most "sad holiday". Or maybe there is a fear of change, fear of age. Hence the reluctance to celebrate.
What to do?
As an option, psychologists suggest celebrating a birthday in a narrow circle, with the closest people. Perhaps, for some of your anniversary, your attitude towards such a holiday will change.
You don't like men
For you, all your married girlfriends are suicides! They rushed out to get married, refusing your joint walks and gatherings. How could all this be canceled out by communication with a man? And in general, for you all men are simply terrible, because they are dreary, unkempt, empty-headed, etc.
What's wrong with you?
A bad experience, an offense that has been caused to you in the past, may well be the reason for your hatred of the entire male sex. The pain that a man once inflicted on you is so great that you hate everyone. Or maybe the experience was different. A bad example was set by a father, a brother, and some other male relative.
What to do?
It is important to understand that not all men are bad. As long as you hate all men, you will attract the most negative to yourself. Change the angle of view, at least to a neutral one, and the picture of the world will also change.
You don't like people
For you, communication with people is still hell. You see them as envious, greedy, arrogant, stupid, slow. Most of them have bad manners, banal desires, and empty eyes. It turns out that you are a misanthrope, a person who hates all of humanity.
What's wrong with you?
Most likely before you saw the world as good, and people as bright and kind, but time after time you understood that people are weak, they lie, dishonest, take someone else's. You are a misanthrope, or, in a nutshell, a disappointed romantic. You hate people and their vices, but do not think that because of your hatred you are the most terrible person on the planet. The most terrible are indifferent, they must be feared, because of their silence, all the troubles on earth happen.
What to do about it?
Try to correct your hatred, and look for positive qualities in people, not negative ones. For example, a lady screaming at you has a beautiful voice, a mischievous minibus driver has a pretty hairstyle and etc. It is important to change the characteristics of people at least to neutral, and use the principle mirroring. When you are a good person and everything becomes good around you, and you attract all the good things to yourself. And remember that you should not hang labels on people, before you judge someone, you need to put on his shoes and go through his life path! You cannot divide people into good and bad, we are all not perfect, we all make mistakes.
If you do not like what everyone around you loves, this does not mean that you are a bad or narrow-minded person. You can and should work with this, and everything will change, the main thing is desire!
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