Do you think it is normal that all expenses in a relationship should be halved? Well, that is, did you come to a cafe, despite the fact that you already live together, they bring the bill, you divide it in half and pay each for himself? Or rented an apartment and pay the landlady together? I think many people are faced with this, and it is still unclear why this is happening. I believe that after all, a man should pay most of the costs. And I want to tell the story of a young girl who wondered what to do next, because her man divides absolutely all expenses in half!
Karina and Artem have been living together for three years. They live in a rented apartment, both work. Artem has a higher salary than Karina. So the man, in spite of this, wants all the expenses for maintaining the "family" budget to be strictly halved. He wants everything to be calculated together: buying furniture, paying utility bills, buying groceries. Perhaps to some it will seem absolutely normal in our modern world, but there is one BUT.
Artem is sure that it is Karina who should do any household chores, that's all, to the smallest detail - to wash, clean, cook, iron, take out the trash. It's all on her. Is it true? Artem simply believes that household is definitely not for men.
And what is it called? Is it really right that both of them work from morning to evening, Karina comes after work and cooks dinner, and Artyom sometimes comes even earlier - and just waits for him to be fed? The man is happy with everything, especially the fact that Karina does not live at his expense. At the same time, I note that he is from a wealthy family, and his parents are always happy to help him with money. But Artyom is proud, works on his own, does not take a penny from his parents, they just issued a bank account for him.
Karina has only a mother and a sister. The mother receives a small salary, and the sister goes to school. That is, you should not expect help from Karina's parents, who would help her mother. So, to help her mother, Karina has to make stash. And one day Artyom found out about it and threw a terrible scandal! He shouted that if Karina hides her income from him, it means that he does not trust him. A very strange situation, won't you agree?
Karina somehow thought about the future. She is not interested in the wedding, she is more interested in whether Artem will help her when she goes on maternity leave. After all, she will receive small ones for maternity, and now a lot of money is spent on babies. And the man immediately said that yes, the child benefits would be small, so Karina would also have to find work at home! This means that she will still bother around the house, raise the baby, and even work at home!
Artem loves a beautiful life and himself very much. He buys himself expensive clothes, perfume, food. Moreover, he eats these products himself, Karine rarely drops anything. The girl, on the other hand, cooks potatoes and pasta, which Artyom “fucks with”, saying that you cannot save on your health, and that is this muck.
The topic of gifts is generally a separate one. Artyom loves himself, so he also loves expensive gifts. That is, this is not the option when "the main thing is attention" or "I will give him divine intimacy", no! He needs something for 5-6 thousand, no less. Of course, Artyom himself occasionally spoils his girlfriend with gifts, but then he constantly reminds her of this.
When I heard this story, I really wanted to hug this girl. Why is she so stupid, you have to go far away from such a man! And the worst thing is that she loves him, and says that he has a lot of positive qualities, and only pettiness drives Karina crazy.
What advice can you give her? Is it really true that you have to part with him? Or someday a miracle will happen and the man will change?
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