Everyone knows that men are afraid of responsibility, therefore they are in no hurry to propose marriage to their women. But only a few understand this, and go to rejection when it sounds just a call to cohabitation. Well, what is this phrase: "Let's try to live together." What does it mean "let's try", then that if it doesn't work out, we'll disperse and that's it? Better to disperse immediately than like this. I'll tell you one story on this topic.
Rita and Dima met for four months. Everything they had was perfect: dates, flowers, kisses, romance. And somehow the guy decided to make his girlfriend an offer to live together. But Rita refused, she wanted to do it as correctly as possible, because she really didn't want to swear.
For four months, Dima looked after Rita very beautifully. In terms of relationships, he was serious enough, wanted to start a family, dreamed of children. He had just grandiose plans. But at one point, he suddenly decides that first they just need to live together in order to get to know each other better.
Dima said it as if between the lines. He did not even offer, but hinted that it was worth trying first. But Rita immediately understood what the guy wanted from her. Once a friend told her about her bitter fate. The man suggested that she live together a little, and then get married. They still live, it's already the fourth year. Rita doesn't want that. She did not torture the guy and wait for him to officially call her to his or rented living space. She herself began the conversation:
- Dim, for me to live together is cohabitation. I do not understand the concepts of "common-law husband", "common-law wife". This civil marriage does not exist. Therefore, I do not want to live together.
Dima did not expect this, he thought that his girlfriend would agree to the proposal:
- Okay, how do you want? How do you imagine our relationship further?
- I'm not going to move in, take care of a man, wash him, cook, iron, clean in apartment, knowing with all this that he does not want to take responsibility for me, - Rita was determined Seriously.
- Rit, well, who told you that I am not taking responsibility? I myself will rent an apartment for us, and in general, I would like you not to work anymore. I myself will support us, - Dima was kind of offended even.
- Well, why do we need to cohabit then, if all the same options that are present in a legal marriage, - Rita turned away.
- Well, I understand you, - the guy did not inflate the topic, because he understood that the general opinion that would suit both is unlikely they will come in this conversation.
Dima just said he would think about it. And at first Rita was even a little scared. She had serious feelings for her boyfriend, and she did not want to tell him all this. She did not know what his reaction would be to such words, she thought that they would quarrel at all. But once again she realized that her man is a worthy person. He did not put pressure on her, did not impose his desire, but simply understood her.
And she felt better. Rita gained confidence in her choice, in her man. She finally realized that he was "the one".
And after such a conversation, Dima bombarded his beloved with various questions:
- What do you like gold or silver more?
- What is your finger size?
- Where would you like to get married?
The guys, of course, got married a couple of months later, Rita is now pregnant, she does not work, she takes care of the family, does the housekeeping, and Dima took full responsibility for supporting the family.
Have you denied men cohabitation? If so, how did your relationship develop afterwards?
The original article is posted here: https://kabluk.me/zhizn/on-predlozhil-ej-pozhit-vmeste-no-ona-otkazala.html
