Women, probably, since childhood, have dreamed of marriage, or rather, a wedding celebration. White dress, status of the bride, many guests, and next to him, the most beautiful, courageous, desired. And few people think about how they will be there in marriage. Women begin to think about this when they are already in a not very good marriage, or have already been in a toxic relationship once. And a young girl will think about how it will be there? Whatever you tell her, she will insist that everything is perfect with her partner, that she is the happiest, and everything else just doesn't matter.
In fact, marriage is a very important step, and there is no need to rush with it. No matter how the society pressured you, when, for example, all your peers jumped out in marriage, but you still can't. Well, in no way and in any way, it means that they have not yet met their one, beloved and unique. It would seem that if you think normally, then all this is understandable. But when it comes to matters of the heart, the mind shifts to the background.
There are very wrong reasons for getting married. I would even call them stupid!
You found out that you are pregnant
Many will say: “Well, how is that? Flew in, we have to play the wedding! " The answer to such very smart uncles and aunts - no! Of course, a man should be responsible for the unborn child and for the woman's pregnancy, but for this it is not at all necessary to marry him. This is not a reason for getting married! You should get married only when you really want to be together. And if not, why does your child need unhappy parents? Think about it.
I know one couple, both are divorced and have children from a previous marriage. When she became pregnant, he offered her a hand and a heart, but she refused. No, they have love, a very good relationship, they live together and are now raising a common daughter, but they are in no hurry to get married. A woman in adulthood realizes that pregnancy is a stupid reason to get married, perhaps she is not completely sure of a partner and of her feelings, which is why they live like roommates.
You have been together for a very long time, and the wedding should seem to come logically
Also not a very healthy reason to get married. You have to go to the registry office when you both want it. It is you and your partner. And not when your relatives and society insist on it.
Your family is waiting for your wedding
Well, it’s like a paragraph flowing from the previous one. If your relatives insist on your wedding, you do not have to get married. We live in a modern world, and you don't have to listen to anyone. This is your life, you live with a person, so you only decide whether to go to the registry office with him or not!
You like the idea of a wedding, but you are already mentally ready for a divorce.
You dream of a white dress, a wedding procession, but you already know for sure that if something goes wrong in your relationship, you will certainly divorce. And marriage is not just a word, you need to work in a relationship, you will have to close your eyes to a lot, look for a compromise. If you immediately set yourself up for a divorce, then this is a bad reason to get married.
Your man insists on a wedding, and gives you an ultimatum
If your partner just forces you to go to the registry office, and you do not want to, then you do not have to do it! Perhaps he is not confident in himself, he is afraid that you will leave him, which is why he gives you an ultimatum. Such a marriage would be doomed to failure.
Your relationship has been cheating on one or both sides, and you want to save the relationship by marriage.
Marriage is not a magic elixir that will definitely help your relationship by solving absolutely all the problems between you. Before running to the registry office, you need to make sure that you love each other, trust each other, and are really ready to start a family.
You just want a wedding
And this is from the beginning of the article, when a girl / woman dreams of a wedding, a white dress, a celebration so much that she practically does not care who to marry. But a few hours of the holiday, beautiful photos - all this will not make any sense if there are no true feelings between you and your partner.
For what reason did you get married?
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