The story of a woman I know. Her name is Irina, she is 32 years old. She brings up her five-year-old daughter alone, works, and she is happy.
Now Irina has to get up at 6 in the morning, collect the child in kindergarten, take the baby, then run to work. And from work again for my daughter and home. She's tired, but she's not going to be a servant anymore.
Irina is married. Earlier her morning began differently. She had to collect not only the child and herself, but also prepare breakfast for her husband in the morning. And then his schedule changed, breakfast was canceled. My husband got up to work at 3 o'clock in the morning, returned home in the late afternoon, and went to bed. On weekends, he was also used to being active at night, so they stopped seeing his daughter altogether. During the day he slept, and the woman had to come up with various quiet games for her daughter so that the master could get enough sleep.
Irina lived in the same apartment not only with her husband and daughter, but also with her mother. So it all started with the mother, she began to nag Irina for her husband. Well, like, a wife should accompany her husband to work, get up and collect food for him. And Irina could not lose precious minutes of her sleep because of this. She also works, it is also hard for her. Plus, is it so hard to take and warm up your food in the microwave?
- Irin, get up, Kostik is going to work. You will feed, and then you will go to bed, - repeated Irina's mother every day.
And Irina understood that if she woke up, she would no longer fall asleep. Kostya is not a little boy, he must be independent already.
- Irinka, you will not feed the peasant, he will find himself one that will feed him. You will remember me again, - the mother did not calm down.
But Irina could not even think about it. She would like to look at that lady who would agree to live according to such a schedule, hammering in her rest and peace, and completely devoting herself to her husband. Ira asked her mother not to interfere, hinted a hundred times that she would do better with her granddaughter. They live together, but grandmother does not play with her granddaughter at all. She did not notice mistakes at all, but she tried to make an ideal wife out of her daughter.
Mother switched to Kostik, and began to brainwash him. And the hubby used to just ask to collect food for him, and he warmed himself at night, and now he began to demand freshly prepared breakfasts from his wife. He began to take offense, get angry, they say, he works, brings money to the house. Any attempts by Irina to explain everything to her husband as it is did not end with success. Then the daughter was also involved in this, again the grandmother tried. Little Varyushka began to say that mom does not love dad, and all because her grandmother told her that a loving wife always cooks breakfast for her husband.
This was the last straw. Not only did Irina work herself, and her daughter was completely on her, but she also needs to serve an adult uncle, and endure her mother's antics. And the woman made such a riot that everyone fled. Mom was safely sent to her mother in the village, and her husband with his belongings was sent to the rented apartment.
Now Irina lives alone with her daughter in a three-room apartment. She is calm, quiet, good. Yes, she gets tired, and sometimes it seems to her that she herself will not take it all out, but as soon as she remembers how she was forced to cook borscht for her husband at night, she sighs with relief. There is no need to collect cigarette butts and dirty socks around the apartment, there is no need to swear with the mother several times a day, I have ceased to break down on the child.
Mother calls every day, asks to return, she is not used to village life, swears that she will no longer get into the relationship between Irina and Kostya. But the woman does not want to return to what she ran away from. She and her husband would have already divorced, only because of her daughter she does not, it hurts that she loves dad.
Tired, all by myself, but it's better than being a servant! Now the husband has returned to the previous schedule, offers to talk, make peace, move in together. And Irina doesn't even know what to do, she doesn't want to become a nanny again. She does not know whether she should forgive her relatives and let them back into her apartment.
What do you think she should do now, do you have any advice on this?
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