It is very difficult to live when you are worried about what others will say. You have to constantly adjust to someone else's opinion, someone else's views. And it turns out that a person, trying to please others, falls under someone else's control. Is it also important for you what others think and say about you? Can absolutely strangers influence your mood? We urgently need to change this!
Of course, those who do not care about other people's opinions will tell you to follow their example. But it’s impossible to take and change immediately. It is not simple! You know, I used to be different too! I didn’t believe in myself, I didn’t consider myself good enough, beautiful, smart enough until someone told me that. I know how hard it is to live like this. Others could influence not only my mood, but also my self-esteem and the result of my activities.
When I finally realized that it couldn't go on like this any longer, I rummaged through a bunch of literature to change myself. Because one of the most attractive qualities of a woman is when she knows her worth and does not need to be judged by anyone.
I have some advice especially for you. I hope they help you become a woman who doesn't care about other people's opinions!
Accept yourself for who you are
There are no perfect people. What we see on the Internet is not true! People use Photoshop, removing extra pounds, acne, wrinkles, and other shortcomings. Having seen enough of such photoshopped ladies, the girls begin to adjust themselves to certain images. But you need to accept yourself for who you are. When you do this, you will immediately feel comfortable and happy.
Do what makes you happy.
It would be ideal if you enjoy your work. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Then you can find a hobby that will make you happy. And it doesn't matter what you do - ride a motorcycle or cross-stitch. It doesn't matter who or what thinks about it, it is important that it makes you a happy person! Do what makes you happy, because you still can't please everyone around you.
Stop apologizing too much
Of course, you need to admit your mistakes, and rightly so. But you don't have to apologize for what you are doing. And don't apologize if things have gone awry because you can't control it.
Talk about yourself in a positive way.
If you treat yourself with love and respect, others will treat you the same way. And when a person thinks bad of himself, he seeks approval from others.
Stop making excuses
You are independent, even if you are wrong, you know that it was your actions that led to the mistakes. And you do not have to make excuses to anyone for this. You can and sometimes even need to listen to advice and criticism, but this should not influence your life too much.
You need to increase your confidence
Work on yourself! If you're having confidence issues, you need to figure it out. Very often it is inside a person, and comes from the past. By finding the reason for your insecurity, you will become stronger and love yourself! And, perhaps, it will take a very long time. But it's worth it!
Listen to others less
There will always be people in life who supposedly know much better how to act and how not. But you don't have to listen to someone else's opinion! Listen better to yourself!
Go to your own rhythm
You choose your own path, and you must stick to it. And don't let others lead you astray. You must be sure that you are walking correctly, and be prepared for the fact that there will be mistakes, but you must learn from them, and not despair and change the trajectory of the movement!
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