Well-known writer and psychologist Jamie Harrington has formulated 4 questions every parent should ask their children on a daily basis.
We are sometimes so busy with our adult affairs, problems, work and everyday life that we do not even find time to talk to our own children. But conversations, so to speak, heart to heart are very important. If they are not there, then relations with children turn exclusively into formal ones, but in emotional terms, a large abyss appears. Therefore, it is important to ask your child 4 simple questions every day in order to avoid the formation of this very abyss.
According to scientists, parents devote about 13 minutes of time to their child. And about 9 of this time goes to reproaches, notations, prohibitions, swearing, and the remaining 4 minutes are left for normal conversation. Isn't it not enough?
The well-known psychologist and blogger Jamie Harrington did a long job and formulated 4 questions that you need to ask your child every day in order to have a trusting and strong relationship with him. These questions do not imply monosyllabic "yes" or "no" answers. They are open, and will stimulate your child to dialogue, describe feelings, evaluate the actions of other people. And parents will be able to get to know their child very well, learn to understand him.
These are the questions
How was your day?
At first, your child, coming from school or returning from kindergarten, will brush you off and respond with something like "good" or "okay." But you, too, do not rush, and do not turn your dialogue into an interrogation, do not try to get as much information out of your child as possible. You can answer, for example, "If you want, you will tell later." And then be sure to add your story, share with the kid what you did and how your day went. After a while, even a secretive and shy child will begin to open up and share information with you.
Can i help you?
You yourself know how difficult it is to ask for help from someone. And it's even more difficult for children. They may think that they will not be understood, that they want to ask for stupidity, etc. Therefore, take action, ask your child every day if he needs your help. Then he will always come to you when difficult moments suddenly come in his life.
What good happened to you today?
Children, especially teenagers, find it difficult to concentrate on the good things. This is why parents should ask this question every day. So your child will learn to notice the good, if nothing like that happened to him in a day, you should always figure out how to fix it.
How are your friends doing?
You can ask in general terms or about a specific friend. You don't have to ask about business. And about who from your child's social circle he likes the most, what qualities a best friend should have, which of his entourage is he proud of, etc. All of these questions apply to different situations, and they are all important to your child.
Psychologist Jamie Harrington is the mother of a teenage daughter, and she, like no one else, understands that it is sometimes very difficult to find enough time to spend with a child. That is why the writer has formulated such important questions that help her to establish a bond with the child. I hope you will succeed!
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