With the advent of children, not only a woman's daily life changes, but also how she communicates with others.
Each of his new achievements is for you the height of evolution. Just think, from two small cells a whole person turned out, he grew inside you, you gave birth to him - and this is just a real person.
He moves his arms and legs, makes sounds - it's just a miracle, you need to call on TV!
We readily believe. Or else it will be when he goes and runs. But if your friends have not yet had children, then this topic will most likely not be very interesting to them. To stay in touch with your friends, you need to restrict yourself a little when talking about children. Here are some rules on how not to lose friends after childbirth.
1. Do not provide physiological details of labor
If you were not directly asked about the details of the birth - and you have something to say, it is better not to tell everything in detail. Before meeting with friends, prepare a story of several sentences in advance, you do not need to develop the topic if you will not be asked questions.2. Taboo stories about feedings, regurgitation, diapers, bowel movements
Now this may constitute the main part of your life, but people who are "out of touch" find it at least unpleasant to listen to all this. And certainly not interesting. Especially not need to bring up the topic at the table.
Anything that happens in the diaper must remain in the diaper.
3. Don't worry if you have "nothing to tell"
Perhaps while you were in the hospital and setting up feeding, your friends traveled, went to the movies, and developed a career. Do not despair that you have "dropped out" from the rhythm of life. This is all temporary, you do not become boring or unsuccessful person.
Believe me, they understand this too, if they are real friends and if you do not put your role as a mother above everything that they tell you.4. Start a blog
It doesn't have to be some kind of commercial project, but a blog will help you to throw out thoughts and feelings that overwhelm, without hanging them on friends who may not understand it all.
So you can reflect, communicate with other mothers, and not bother your friends with children's topics.
5. Broaden your horizons
Let's be honest, most moms have time on social networks, which means that it can also be spent on keeping up with what is happening in the world.
Read news, articles, books, watch TV shows, turn on new music - all this can be done during the day, while the baby is sleeping, eating or playing on his own.So you can not only keep up a conversation with friends, but also diversify your everyday life, break out of "Groundhog Day".
6. Don't discount your friends' problems
If friends asked you for help, advice, or just decided to share their problems, then you shouldn't tell them something like: “Is this a problem? Once you give birth, then you will understand what real problems are. "
Each person has their own path, and not necessarily the birth of children will be in the path of your friends. However, their problems also matter and are serious to them.
If you want to be taken seriously in the status of a mother on maternity leave and treated with understanding to your feelings, then try and to feel empathy for childless people and their problems themselves, not to judge everything and everyone from the point of view of a mother who "learned the essence being ".
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